GSW: God’s word is Spirit and life. The words God speaks are Spirits. Angels speak spirit and life. The words angels speak are spirits. Believers speak spirit and life. The words a believer speak are spirits. Ministering Spirits are the life force released to help the heirs of salvation accomplish the Supernatural aspects of their assignments as they minister. There are fallen Angels and then there are demons. Angels are the opposite of fallen angels. Demons are the opposite of ministering Spirits. The same way demons possess people and make their lives miserable, A ministering Spirit will dwell in a man and teach him how to do certain things or how to speak or how to act or how to move in such a manner that would benefit the person’s life. A ministering Spirit will heal a broken body or help the faith of one whose faith is failing. When Jesus told the Syrophoenician woman to go, because her daughter has been healed. He released a word, the spirit of that word or the spirit behind that word went home to heal the woman’s daughter. If you tell someone YOU ARE HEALED, you have released a ministering Spirit in charge of healing on that person. The ministering Spirit accomplishes the task you have set it to do. Just as angels watch over the word of God to perform it. Ministering Spirit watches over the word of a believer to perform it. Every believer has many ministering Spirits working with them and activated through their words. The same process with Logos and Rhema. Logos is the written word. Rhema is the Spirit behind the written word. Without the logos there can be no rhema. Without angels there cant be ministering spirits. A ministering Spirit can only dwell in someone who is full of the Holy Spirit. A ministering Spirit can only be released by
someone who is full of the Holy Spirit.

Yes.

GSW: Can we ask Peter? Or Paul? Or John Mark? Or John the Beloved? Or Jacob? If character is the key to heaven, none of us will make it. For there is none that is good, no not one. This is why salvation grants us eternal life. Character remains what it is. We tone down some things and we learn to manage other things but by and large, a lion is a lion and a buffalo is a buffalo. The knowledge of Good and bad by the individual is subject to many other factors; Background Upbringing Local Government area Oshodi or Awe? Religion Influence and peer pressure etc.

GSW: A boy fought another boy. The mother of one boy said “Go back and fight him again, don’t be timid, go and win that fight before coming back here” The mother of the other boy said “We don’t fight in this family, you have brought shame on me and your father by raising your hand in a fight” Which parent is right? Which parent is wrong? Without context we can’t know which parent is right or wrong. Both parents are right depending on context. If your son is being bullied, as a parent, option one is right. If your child is a bully, as a parent option two is right. That is what Ecclesiastes 3 was referring to. Character means what you did plus why you did it and when. There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: 2 a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, 3 a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,

GSW: The old cat didn’t stop being a cat, it only grew old.

GSW: Or our bodies can’t do them anymore which is not a change of character, we just grew old. We didn’t outgrow it. We grew old But we have seen prostitute with certain character and patterns become a better person etc. same with stealing etc. have seen transformation stories in Rehabilitation centers.

GSW: They mostly are not really prostitutes. Some people find themselves doing some things just to survive, once they can break that yoke off, they move on. I know prostitutes who went to school and later became medical doctors. They were not really prostitutes. The hard core prostitutes made a choice to be prostitutes. They are from rich homes, they have good parents, they just chose that way of life.

GSW: They usually outgrow it. Prostitution is like football. You can only play that game for a while.

GSW: I agree with this. But transform him to a vessel for God’s use not a character amendment machine. In the process of being transformed to a vessel fit for God, he will surely change many habits. He will be filled with the Holy Spirit, make new friends. Read the word. Speak better. All these things we will see in him or her as he or she walks with the Holy Spirit. He will still deny Jesus sha if he is a Peter. He will still cave under pressure over and over, until he outgrows that character defect. At a point, like Jacob or Peter he will simply get too old to run and he will say “I want to die for Jesus in his 60s” Did you notice that Paul wrote letters to churches and he addressed character and behavioral issues for chapters of the scripture while he only gave instructions as regarding their spirituality. He didn’t complain that they didn’t speak in tongues. He didn’t complain that they didn’t come to church. He didn’t complain that they didn’t study the scriptures. The church in Corinth, it was character and they were vessels fit for God’s use. All the pastors I know it’s on top character they grow white hair. It’s on top character they say “No kill me I beg, I get my own pikin”

GSW: Brother Truth don wear Agbada. The reason character can’t be the same is because it is a human construct. Remember that prostitute that was saved in Jericho? When you read the story of Rehab, you will realise how character is a human construct. You send holy men into a city and the place they went to is a prostitute’s bar. What is a holy man doing in such a place. The prostitute then helped them. They then made a deal with the prostitute and God honoured the deal. If they were the ones that spared the prostitute, I would say it was tit for tat. Angels honoured the deal. Jericho fell and Rahab’s house stood. Heaven honoured that deal. Many who were not prostitutes in Jericho died, the prostitute lived. She was now grafted into Israel, given a husband and she had children and was no longer a prostitute. So she was not really a prostitute at heart she was not a prostitute. The bible told us of others who came to Israel and corrupted the people with their prostitution. She stopped. She didn’t corrupt anybody. She was not a prostitute. A prostitute like the one Eliazar killed in Numbers would come into Israel and still be a prostitute.

GSW: She was never a prostitute. Life made her one. She was not one in her nature and character. There are thieves like that. They steal but they change not because of sermon or whatever. They get a job and they stop. Some will steal even if you give them billions. Sometimes life make us become what we are not. But when we are free, we then stop being that thing. That was why apostle paul said “Let him that steal, steal no more” The person was a born again, a member of the church and he was still a thief. They reported it to the Apostle. He realised the guy didn’t know who he has become in Christ. If you know who you have become, you won’t still be doing that. Onesimus was a slave, Apostle Paul said he was not a slave. Even though he had a owner called Philemon. Slavery was nothing to a born again Christian if he understood who he had become in Christ. To have a better character, a christian must invent a better persona, a stronger identity that is far above his previous mindset which causes him to steal or prostirute. This is not changing character. This is what it means to become a new man. Many believers are not yet new men or women. They are saved but they have not invented that character and identity that fits who they are in Christ. So they are new spiritually but they have not learnt how to behave in a way that fits into their newness. We don’t change character. We kill the old man. His character must die with him. Then we take up a new man. The new character is formed in Him. That is what it means to be born again. We don’t see that nowadays. Jacob is now Israel but he still behaved like Jacob. Peter is now Cephas but he still behaved like Peter. Saul is now Paul and he now behaved like Paul.

GSW: Character does not change sir. It either dies or it is still alive

GSW: The new man is the one who learns this. Teaching this to the old man only makes him pretend.

GSW: It emits always a waste of time to do this. The person won’t ever change and you will spend all your life praying and begging and preaching. Wives do this for husbands. Girlfriends for boyfriends. Something that is anti-scripture. It will never work. There has to be a death. An end A killing A taking of life A total disengagement from that persona. Teaching new tricks to an old dog 🐕 is a waste of everybody’s time.

GSW: The fruit of the spirit is the evidence of the new life. As simple as this is, the Lord just taught me a few hours ago as I was praying. I got a case. I know this lady who always bad mouths people even when she has no need to do so. I had spoken to her once before and encouraged her to stop that unbefitting behavior. Months later I got a report she had started doing it again. It hurt my heart a bit. I felt “this is a Christian” Why can’t she not behave like this. Then it occurred to me…She was still who she was. She is not who she should be.

GSW: I get this from a human perspective. From God’s perspective, it makes no sense. He already gave them the city and the instructions on how to take it. What is the use of the spies? And who would a prostitute be protecting if the spies didn’t go to her lair? I met an Indian. I liked his perfume. I spoke to him. He said he would buy it and bring it to Nigeria for me on his next trip. I told him I would pay. He said okay. Then I saw him a few months later. I asked him for the perfume. He said he forgot completely. I took out money and paid him. I said I have kept the money aside since we met and the money was his. If he decides to buy the perfume and bring it to me, it is fine. If he decides not to do so it is okay. But my own words won’t fail because his words failed. People looked at me as if I was mad. Why pay him? I told them I paid him because I said I would pay. But he didn’t bring the perf? I said that is because he didn’t think his words were worth anything. My own words are worth a lot. I learnt it from Daddy Adeboye. I was told he told a pastor to start a parish in the UK. The pastor did so but converted the church to his own. Baba Adeboye went to the church and gave the man the money he pledged to give him when they talked about the planting of the church. The pastor said “Daddy, it is not RCCG anymore sir” Baba said “I know but I gave my word and I must keep my word” There has to be a dying to self! There has to be a coming alive into Christ. Besides that, all we have will be theories and textbooks, and professors and behavioral psychobabble I saw a documentary recently. A notorious armed robber escaped from prison. Settled down in another community in America and lived his life as an upstanding citizen. Got married and had kids. The US Marshalls caught up with him forty years after he escaped. He got no criminal record whatsoever. I said wow. This man had the ability to change. Without Christ or religion. He changed because he became a new man. And he was true to the new character for over forty years. The judge set him free after six months in jail. The judge said he got life in prison because they said he will always be a menace. He proved everybody wrong. Not one crime. No complaints from wife and children. And this man was a criminal who got life in prison without parole. Did he change? Yes. Is that enough to get him into heaven? No! He merely modified his behavior. He didn’t die to sin. So we are capable of change if we desire to or when we are compelled to. But death to sin is what gives us eternal life. Becoming a new man entirely. We are meant to live by The Scriptures alone! We may glean knowledge from other sources and acquire gnosis from other sources. The Word of God is the Life of the New Creation. The Word Himself is the life of the Born Again Christian.

Close the session and tell the person you will pray and may or may not get back to him or her.

There’s truly no better way to teach counseling than by engaging with real-life, practical cases. We’re reaching a point where we must move beyond simply praying with people — we must also be able to counsel them with wisdom and discernment. That was the purpose of the scenario we discussed.

Sister Eyitayo Briella Ansa-Etim and Brother Labiso are naturally gifted counselors, and your advice was about 70% accurate. However, one major detail we all missed is this: the lady in question is 28 years old. Biologically and scripturally, she’s in the season where she should be married, having sex, and raising a family. If she lived in a country with a better economy, she would likely already be married.

Another overlooked point is that she is in a relationship with the man in question. She made it clear that it’s just one man, and though they’re trying to remain platonic, that doesn’t invalidate the depth or intentions of their relationship. We should encourage them — if their relationship is serious — to accelerate their marriage plans and begin thinking long-term. Sometimes, separating two people isn’t the right answer. She’s 28 — more than ready for marriage.

On Praying Before Counseling

Before giving any counsel, we must pray and invite the Holy Spirit to guide us. Let’s be honest — how many of us prayed before responding to that situation?

If I had met both of them personally, I would’ve arranged their wedding within a month. I’d even offer to cover the cost if necessary. They’re both ready; the only thing they lack is money for the wedding. They both have good jobs. I spoke with them recently, and although they’re not in the same city, they’ve already set a wedding date for June next year to save up. I intend to help them speed things up.

They genuinely love each other. She’s a registered nurse, and he’s a practicing doctor. So yes — they’ve been intimate, and at 28, marriage should be the next step.

On Truthfulness in Counseling

In counseling, people often don’t tell the whole truth. This particular lady told Sister Funto that the man forced himself on her. But when I spoke with her directly, she admitted she seduced him. Can you see the disparity? If you don’t pray, you won’t discern the truth, and it’s easy to get carried away by people’s ability to manipulate with half-truths.

When listening, summarize what the person said to confirm your understanding — and pray internally while doing so. Ask plenty of questions: “Is this your boyfriend?”, “Is he married?”, “Do you work together?” — these questions help widen your understanding and expose the root of guilt or confusion.

I once asked a lady if she was masturbating after reading certain books, because she said she felt “very dirty.” She almost lashed out at me, but I had to ask. People can appear very “holy,” but questions are key.

No one ever tells the whole truth. Ever. Not because they’re bad — but because they fear being judged or misunderstood. We must always probe gently but thoroughly.

On Recognizing Patterns & Guarding the Spirit

Watch out for a victim mindset. Ask if the issue has occurred before. Counseling is delicate, and not every case requires prayer as the immediate solution. Our task is to bring clarity and light to people’s lives. That sometimes involves listening for what isn’t said but is implied. Pay attention to tone, body language, and inconsistencies.

Sharing your own story also helps. It creates trust. If you’re open, they’ll be open too. But secretive people make poor counselors. We’re not here to be stoic therapists; we’re here to offer hope — and sometimes, your story is the rope someone else will hold on to.

Don’t judge, no matter what they tell you. Keep a straight face and pray in tongues silently if what you’re hearing is heavy. Remember — Christ died for that person. All they need to do is accept Him, and their past is wiped clean.

On Discerning True Intentions

Be widely read. Courtroom dramas, for example, can help you recognize human behavior, body language, and manipulative tactics.

Some people who come for counseling really just want financial help. For example, one woman reached out yesterday — her wedding budget was 15 million Naira. Another is spending 20 million on her mother’s burial. It reminded me how wildly different people’s realities can be.

Others come to counseling sessions to manipulate or even seduce the counselor — yes, it happens to both men and women. Be watchful. Don’t allow yourself to be pulled in emotionally or physically.

Conclusion: The Spirit is the Key

Don’t step into the arena of counseling without the Holy Spirit. It’s not about head knowledge — it’s about spiritual sensitivity. Only the Holy Spirit can reveal people’s true intentions. Sometimes, a single Spirit-led sentence will uncover what’s really going on.

If someone asks you, “What is God saying?”, kindly let them know that you’re not a spiritual consultant. Every believer is supposed to hear from God personally.

If God has given you a word for the person, then share it. But if He hasn’t, encourage them to seek His face themselves.

Sometimes, the spirit of counsel will take over while you’re speaking, and you’ll notice that the words coming out of your mouth aren’t your usual way of speaking. Don’t suppress that — allow the Holy Spirit to express Himself freely through you when you minister.

Both. What I usually do is describe her to herself—without saying it’s her—and then ask her to judge the person I’ve just painted in words.

She’ll respond by saying things like, “That person is this or that…”

Then I’ll say, “You’ve just described yourself.”

She’ll laugh, and that opens the door. From there, I guide her on how to conduct herself moving forward.

I was going to teach on words and mood creation—and the previous discussion served as a springboard for it. The way words work in ministration is different from everyday communication. If you understand where someone is coming from, you’re more likely to minister to them effectively than if you don’t.

For instance, when ministering to someone from a city like Lagos, your choice of words and expressions may be limited. The command of language in metropolitan areas is often shallow. Some people are deeply moved by words, while others aren’t. As a minister, you must discern the best approach for each person in counseling or ministration.

I got feedback from someone whose son was very ill. He reached out for prayer. However, the person who handled the case started asking him to pray in tongues. That man is a pastor from Ibadan who doesn’t believe in speaking in tongues. His immediate need wasn’t a Holy Ghost baptism—it was empathy, concern, wisdom, and a demonstration of love. The approach felt more like an insult than help. That mistake came from our side.

We haven’t yet mastered the power of language in ministration. Even on a phone call, your tone and word choice can show whether you care and understand the situation.

The lady whose case inspired this teaching did something unethical—not murder or anything criminal, but wrong. When I described her actions, I chose words deliberately—not to condemn, but to expose and correct. I could’ve used milder words or treated it like “no big deal,” like I did when I posted the same story in the Blissful Home Ministers’ forum. The message was the same, but the way I framed it led to two very different reactions. That is the power of words.

Used carefully, words heal. Used rashly, they can destroy. You can use words to make a petty thief look like a murderer—or vice versa.

At Abeokuta, when the pastor made an altar call, a certain “SU-type” lady came out. I knew that laying hands on her wouldn’t work—her heart was hardened. She needed softening. So I held her hands and asked her to repeat:

“Lord, I am sorry for being disobedient. I have been rash and selfish. I chose my path and forsook yours. I became my own master after giving my life to you. I am sorry.”

She began to cry as she spoke the words. I didn’t hear anything from the Holy Spirit at that moment—but I knew those words would break through. She fell to her knees. I didn’t release her yet. I said, “Tell the Lord you have yielded to Him. Say it.” She said, “I surrender.” That was the moment she truly yielded—the anointing came, and she fell under its power.

She messaged me the next morning, thanking me and sharing how she had taken steps to correct her mistakes. That’s what words can do.

I also spoke about a woman who was given just a few days to live. I prayed intensely—nothing happened. She had a demonic condition causing extreme weight loss. The doctors said it was an incurable infection. After 45 minutes of praying in tongues without results, I asked:

“Do you want to leave your two-year-old child for another woman to raise? Do you want to give up your future to this demon or will you fight for your life?”

She screamed and fell to the ground, shaking violently until the demon left her. The anointing didn’t work, but words stirred her. She was later filled with the Holy Spirit and is now four months pregnant with her third child. She’s healthy, gaining weight, and doing well.

Sometimes, you’ll meet someone with a violent, boastful, or arrogant spirit. Such spirits thrive on attention. In Abuja, I once ridiculed such a spirit:

“I can’t be looking at you—I’ve seen greater things. Move aside. Let me celebrate my God.”

We began to dance and ignored the demon. It left. When I returned to Abuja for another event, the same woman came back—happy, beautiful, and focused not on herself, but her family. That’s how powerful words can be.

No word is wrong in itself if used appropriately. I once called a demon a thief and it reacted violently. Demons are proud; they hate ridicule. I reminded it of what the Bible said: “You came to steal, kill, and destroy. You thief, get out.” The demon left immediately. I wasn’t insulting the woman—just the demon. The key is discernment and wisdom. Using the right word at the right time is effective and wise.

Many people, despite good intentions, say foolish things in ministry. Foolish talk—even with anointing—is ineffective.

Words are central to Christ’s ministry. Look at how He rebuked the Pharisees: calling them whitewashed tombs, thieves, robbers, and murderers. Yet His words were still spirit and life. He also wept over unbelief. The same Jesus spoke words that healed, restored, and corrected.

In conclusion, when we minister, let us ask the Holy Spirit to give us the right words and a listening ear.

Here’s a habit I recommend: when counseling, let the person finish speaking. Then repeat a summary of what they said back to them. As you speak their own words aloud, the Holy Spirit will give you insight and clarity. You’ll naturally choose the right tone, mood, inflection, and delivery to produce the best outcome.

But if we can get this ideal started off, it will be a hit and a wave that will steer many to the Lord. The movie industry is ruining a lot of lives and giving them something like it won’t help. It’s a total different kind of cinema that will change it.

We cannot beat them at their own game sir. We must operate by a different set of rules. That is what I have been saying. A rule they cannot contest or contend with. Their budget is billions of dollars. Christian drama or film ministry has to do crowdfunding to shoot the chosen. Tyler Perry had to slant his stories away from gospel to get a studio. And you think one drama in Nigeria is the solution. Nah New set of rules. A totally different mindset. Dining the gospel. Live on record. Raise the dead and heal the sick Live on record. Trend it on social media week in week out.

Even the American movies. Like that the shack. Tragedy always must lead them to God. Hian. Using God to fill a void in their lives or hearts. I no want. My God no be void filler. He is my life. I have had money thrown at me to produce some of my stories. I said no. If you want to do it, go ahead and take the content but don’t pay me. Don’t also mention my name in it. I told them I’d rather they sponsor a crusade or outreach. They said no.

I like this but the characters have to be animals. Not humans. Tom and Jerry of Zion. I
will like to watch that. Or Super GSW with cape flying everywhere. Must be a dragon tho. I don’t want GSW to be a cat or a lion. People already said they saw me spitting fire. Dragon something

We are not doing movies ma. Never! Others who are called to do it can go ahead. I won’t
act when I can do

Why act when you can do? When you do people Will see it. Actors can’t do. That’s why they act. Doers don’t act. They just do. Imagine Paul going about acting the miracles of Jesus. He will never have his own miracles. I met the lead actor of Ayamatanga once in Poly Ibadan. She said she went mad for weeks after the film. Like went mad. That they had to be praying and conducting deliverance for her.

Go and verify this please. When she told me at the CAC student’s fellowship at the time I was shocked. How? I had no knowledge of spiritual things at the time. But I later came to understand it. She was only acting and therefore opened the door to affliction from demons. The ministry claimed that was evidence that the movie hit the devil. No please. It was evidence that acting is not what the Holy Spirit wants us
to be doing.

One pastor went to RHS. Maranatha’s school. He wanted to fill the students in JS 2 with the Holy Spirit. Only a few got it. The man lamented that they are not opening their heart to receive. Maranatha said “ Sir, my Daddy will tell them to say after him…,”The man said he should come and do it. He did it. Everybody fell under the anointing after. He was made class chaplain the next day. That is drama. When I got their school the next day, I was invited to come and minister. I said no. My son is enough for that school abeg.

This is what I do. What you read daily. When I write You see Christ. For every one asking question I get many in my dm. Coming into Christ. Not all industries can be countered or should be countered in their genre. Blue film now is a genre/ are we willing to counter them by doing Christian blue film? The Christian’s in America took the blue film industry to court in 1977. Do you know how the blue film
industry won? They said it is art.

Thank you sir. That will be the original Reality TV show.

Christian’s like my content. They send it to their church groups. They teach with it.

Open to debate. All of Baba Kwara’s children grew up watching mount Zion. They told me themselves that they hated their father for it. All the children o. I had to help adjust a lot of things. You cannot push a narrative that has deficiencies. Not even one. The gospel does not lead anyone to hate. Why have we not dominated the entertainment industry and why can we never dominate it? It’s appeal is Sex, Money and Power. We can’t match that appeal in anyway by drama. We can only subdue sight by insight. We must do all things by the spirit Look at Liz Benson. She was a top actor in Nigeria. Then she became a pastor. She had to drop acting totally. Why? How do you kiss different guys in movies and then preach Christ with your life. Chris Okotie too.

Top musician but had to quit it for the pulpit. Why didn’t God say they should continue. Since that is their talent. Or na gift you call am We have shaken twitter for four years back to back. We didn’t do drama. We did miracles and shared our exploits. Our testimony carried a witness of the Holy Spirit. Many people among us started their ministries from this. Adewale, Funto, Kanichi, Paul, ZARA ETC Our fruits are abiding and we are teaching them daily. That is the gospel One actor joined us in Pssbc once. He tried but he saw that it is wiser to be a Christian in silence and continue acting than be loud about it and lose out in that field. I encouraged him to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit. That’s his job and he is good at it. But those roles have heavy demands sometimes. Kiss a babe, roll in the hay with a babe etc. While you are married and a Christian. The optics look somehow. But that is the job. And that is what the world want to watch. Otherwise you won’t sell Mount Sion relied heavily on churches and already established Christian’s in order to sell. It is like preaching to the choir.

How many Muslims buy or watch mount Zion movies. Ayamatanga was popular because it was on normal tv. Sponsored though. Why do you think I include sexual content in my writings? You think I didn’t want to remove it? I decided it has to stay despite many Christian’s coming for my head it is what will sell. Do you want to do drama and sleep with someone just to prove it is an art? There are movies where actors are actually required to have sex on set.

Carry camera, do steer evangelism, heal the sick, record all the miracles, post on YouTube. Compose music by the spirit . Record it. Post on YouTube. Demonstrate the spirit post on YouTube. Don’t be doing what others did. Apostle Paul said he didn’t do what others did or copy them. He did Christ.

Fill children with the Holy Ghost. They learn by watching you. I am not being difficult o. I get your point of view. I just know it is not what the Spirit wants us to be doing as a church. So easy to fall into coma when you are doing drama. Read another person’s story and be acting it. Instead of making your own miracles daily.

Which industry? how about Football? No be industry? I want believers to take over every space but with the real deal not some acting. Entertainment is purely under our jurisdiction but it has to be by the spirit and real. Not some caricature of the original. Those who came for our convention joined school 19 on their own without anybody preaching to them. They experienced it and saw it live. That is better than acting about Jesus to them at the camp meeting. I have been to camp meetings before where there is movie night, drama night, dance night, etc. witches love such gatherings. Soon the Holy Spirit will leave
them. Because they are just acting the past and not doing the present. The Holy Spirit is a present spirit. Not some reenacting spirit.

We don’t need to give people an idea of the truth. We demonstrate it and they come into the truth. If I were doing drama GSWMI won’t be here. We would be under a proper ministry and we will be begging them to fund us. Go and do Christ. That is more than enough drama on it’s own.

They didn’t raise a troupe though. Jesus was a great actor too. Or performer. See how he did his own drama. John 4. Carry your mat and walk thing. That is acting by the spirit. Go and be doing that. Apostle Paul did not win Europe by doing drama. He actually demonstrated Christ. That is our example. Yeah!

Dramatizing the things of the spirit. Wow.

It is art but the emphasis is on the life of the actors being a true depiction of Christ rather than just acting it. Imagine someone acting out what happens at our supernatural convention. Someone acting lady Ann. Or Dr. Oyin Or me. Or Pastor Eyitayo. You are now watching it. You will laugh and call all of us jokers. Without the benefit of the spirit all acting is a lie and not a true depiction of reality. You cannot use a lie to teach the truth. One guy goes about mimicking.

I think those are comedians, Sir. Comedians are actors please. The word actor comes from the word Hypocrite. Go and check it. All actors are hypocrites. They are something but acting like something else. The standard of the world allows that. In truth all men are hypocrites. Believers however are the real deal. They must then do the real deal. If you want to take over Hollywood, go on the street with your camera and heal. If you are an actor, you are automatically a hypocrite. That is your job

It is her imagination at work. No be everything be spirit. They don’t do drama in heaven.

The gospel is being preached everywhere please. China and North Korea especially. You can’t stage a drama in those countries or come and be playing religious movies. I am more effective as a minister in my garb and walk with the Holy Spirit than 50 actors acting what I did. They are better off becoming me and doing Christ in their sphere of influence. And the actors do not go on living as that character. If you acted Jesus in a movie and then I see you on the street the next day living an ordinary life. See how that looks. The devil does the same.

The gospel is the counter. The gospel Not preached in religious way. Loved and preached in lives and without religion. That’s the counter.

Go on the street and work miracles. More effective than any drama. Record the miracles. So GSW will work a miracle and then some ministers will go and be recreating it instead
of doing their own miracles. Fake get level abeg

Recreated miracles. How is Pete cabrera Jnr doing it. Or created miracles.

It is a movie that showed Jesus suffering not the resurrected Lord. And it didn’t depict the sovereignty of Christ in anyway. It depicted his humanity.

Am i not a writer? You can use the gift of writing and the dramatic to better effect as a minister. God does not give group gift. Na individual gift e dey give

It didn’t. It ruined many people’s lives. Depicted marriage the wrong way. Depicted sex the wrong way. Slanted reality. It is not a true representation of the Kingdom

Lets not make worldly goals kingdom goals. How has Christian drama changed anything. What impact has it had. Lets not be using goals of sight to measure goals of the spirit. More people gathered to see Jesus without any drama. Power is a magnet.

There is nothing like this pls

I know. It has happened. We can always create another miracle. We need not recreate a miracle. All the movies done about the gospel and Jesus cannot hold a candle to one crusade or supernatural service. The spirit is always ready to move and do wonders in the present. Drama is always referring to the past or fiction. In the days of Jesus there were drama troupes touring Europe.

You can imagine all by yourself. Jesus was a master of imagery and word weaver. Our kingdom does not need drama to ginger imagination. We are of a Kingdom that cannot be seen with naked eyes. When I was married, if I acted that drama with Sister Ibiwari, I should just go and buy coffin. I mean!!!! Ordinary hug, i no dey sleep with two eyes. Many of our people here know how it was then. To lay hand in a ministration self, I will face panel.

You want to be watching Christian movie where man is kissing woman abi. Even mount Zion people who are married in real life cannot do it for us. When I was young, we were attending a church. The church started drama. One man said his wife and the brother acting her husband are holding each other somehow in rehearsal. Wahala for church. Na so the drama team was disbanded. Plus God does not sanction drama in any way. It is a lie being acted. It is still a lie. I write scripts and movies and I understand why it is not a heavenly thing. Acting and drama. It is not evil but it is of no spiritual value too. Making people play roles that is untrue is scripting them to lie and then trying to make them learn lessons from lies. Because I write many people assume I will support movies and drama. I don’t. It fascinates me a bit. At the convention i was wondering if Ibiwari Eden’s husband saw our playlet and how he will take it. And the brother that acted the one that died too. If his wife or girlfriend was cringing in their seats. I no wan that kind headache abeg.

It is us making the choice—all of us! Just take that and let it sink in.

Contribution:
I’ve often wondered why the Bible doesn’t emphasize marrying who we love, but instead focuses on loving who we marry. Many cultures, like the Indian culture, encourage arranged marriages—often set up by parents. Interestingly, statistics show that such marriages tend to have lower divorce rates than those in Western cultures, where love is the usual basis for marriage.

GSW:
I’ve noticed something within PSSBC that has bothered me for a while, but I chose to remain silent because I believe things will balance out eventually.

Here’s what I mean:
A guy hears from God and approaches a lady. She’s initially open to it. But then she goes and speaks to a group of other ladies—a sort of informal council—and in the end, she is either convinced to accept or reject the guy. This happens subtly, but I hear about it and I think to myself… Hmm…

By what criteria are we judging these decisions?
Material achievements? Set standards? Financial capacity?
Or are we judging by the Spirit?

If I am truly convinced that God told me something, I would never subject that conviction to anyone else’s opinion. The reason we seek validation from others—especially those we consider spiritually sound—is often because we are not certain ourselves.

I’ve never been like that. If I were, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
I move by the voice of God, the conviction in my heart, and I run with whatever He gives me. No human opinion matters. Once someone’s opinion becomes more important than God’s voice, it is no longer God’s Word you’re following.

Being double-minded is not a spiritual strength. It causes us to discard God’s will and replace it with our own logic and senses.

Imagine being so afraid of making a mistake that you end up doing nothing with the reality God has designed for you. Really, think about it!

When I was in 300-level at university, I saw my children in a vision—I was teaching them and leading them somewhere. I knew those children would come to pass. But I didn’t receive a name or identity for a wife. I didn’t see her. But I knew those children were coming, no matter who I married—even if she didn’t have a womb!

It was that vision that made me want to marry a certain SS lady, but she was too afraid to commit at the time. That’s how I walk with God: by what He says.

I don’t try to embellish or interpret His words to fit my expectations.
He is God, and I’m always the one learning from Him.
I was willing to marry anyone from anywhere without hesitation—and yes, I did. That’s my extreme, and it will always be my extreme.

I set aside my fears, pain, and opinions to fulfill God’s will.
I count my feelings as dung. I’ve proven this again and again.

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Here’s the truth:
We don’t matter in the grand scheme if all we do is chase our own desires.
God doesn’t need your will or preference to accomplish His plan—He needs your obedience. Even if it comes with pain, stress, and tears—like Jesus experienced—His will must be done.

Most of us love ourselves too much, and that’s why God’s Word no longer carries weight.
How can God show you a vision so clearly, and yet you delay acting on it because it doesn’t align with your own criteria?

The vision is clear.
You are the runner who’s complaining the shoes are too tight.
Another runner is ready to step in and run that race. God won’t tolerate our hesitation and disobedience forever.

Remember Mary? She was a betrothed virgin, suddenly pregnant, and could have been stoned to death. But she didn’t complain. She stood before Joseph and told him the truth. Think about the shame, the whispers, the judgment from society—none of it moved her.

Do you know what the angel said through Elizabeth?
“Now shall the whole world call you blessed.”
She carried shame in the present but received a promise of honor in the future. She bore the shame, and she brought forth the Savior. Hallelujah!

Many of us, even with tongues and spiritual gifts, don’t have Mary’s boldness.
We are too carnal in our thinking.
Self is king. It’s a pity.

You hear things like:

• “I can’t.”
• “Don’t stress me.”
• “Is it by force to get married?”

And these come from spirit-filled believers whom God has shown their children as a gift!
Chai! Stop it!

We are not here for ourselves.
We are here to do one thing—fulfill the will of God.
That’s all.

Aren’t we the ones asking God to pair us with the right person? Yet, we often go ahead and make the pairing ourselves—then turn around and blame God when it doesn’t work out.

The truth is, 99% of the time, we are the ones who pair ourselves.
Forget all the “I heard God” or “I received confirmation” claims—we make our own choices.

GSW:
The Holy Spirit can indeed be grieved—but that grief is usually directed at the individual, not the entire body. So, while He may be grieved with Sister A, He could still be pleased with Sister B, depending on each person’s level of yieldedness to Him.

When the Holy Spirit has instructed us to handle a matter—or to leave it alone—and we choose to do things our own way instead, we can sense sorrow or heaviness in our spirit. That sadness often reflects the fact that we’ve chosen our will over His.

Sometimes, the Holy Spirit points something out to us—something we personally can’t change or control—and we begin to weep or feel deep sorrow. Why? Because we perceive just how deeply He has been grieved.

What I appreciate is that we’re being honest about all this.

It’s important to note that in the early Church, it wasn’t common practice to receive spouses through divine leading as we often describe today. They already had marriage customs in place, rooted in their Jewish culture. Love wasn’t seen as a feeling—it was a command. You were expected to love whoever you were paired with.

Marriages were arranged in those days. Mary and Joseph didn’t fall in love—they were paired from childhood.

Today, we’ve chosen to reject arranged pairings and instead seek out “love” ourselves. Now, it’s God who we expect to do the matchmaking by His Spirit. And even then, those marriages still face serious challenges.

Let’s be real—God does everything perfectly, but we are the ones who must Dokimazo (test and approve His will, as Romans 12:2 puts it). That’s our part.

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Contribution:
I believe, sir, that everyone in a marriage has the responsibility to work with the Holy Spirit to make it thrive. But many of us let our emotions take over—and when that happens, we stop listening to Him.

GSW:
About this whole “hearing from God and getting confirmation” thing… hmmm.
For most people, it’s really just guesswork—or the power of suggestion.

I know brothers who claimed to “hear” from God about seven different ladies before they finally chose the one they ended up with—declaring that one as the “confirmed” choice.

So when a lady or a guy tells me, “I heard from God” and “It was confirmed,” and then it still doesn’t work out, I often wonder:
What exactly did you hear? And who confirmed it?

In some rare cases, even the person who supposedly “heard from God” can decide to say no and go in a different direction.
And you know what? God won’t be angry.
Because at the end of the day, it’s still a choice.

I was in London with @AyowoleTinuola, and we were having a conversation.
Then she said, “Brother Gbenga, you’re really doing well. One would never guess you’ve gone through anything emotional.”

I laughed.

The day I truly learned my lesson was when my wife and I took Harmony to Eko Hospital. I spent a lot of money that day. At some point, the doctors asked for yet another test, and I said, “No more.”

My wife began to cry.
“Why are you saying no more? Do you want this girl to remain like this? We must do everything it takes to get a solution!”

So I said, “Okay,” and I continued.
By the time we were done, I had spent over 2 million naira and the entire day at the hospital.

On our way home, the Holy Spirit said to me:
“Today, you behaved like the king who trusted in physicians instead of Me. You allowed your emotions to lead you—and you forgot that I Am.”

I cried my eyes out as I drove home. That day, I lost everything—to emotion.

Despite all the samples they took at the hospital, the doctors didn’t give us a single drug—not one injection, not even basic medication. I spent the entire day there, and poured out my money. And to this day, that girl never received a single drug from anyone.

They just kept testing and testing. The baby cried non-stop as they took the samples. And I kept paying and paying—all because I let my emotions lead me.

There’s something else I’ve noticed—and to be honest, it scares me a bit…

Whenever I become too emotionally invested in something to the point where it begins to distract me from my fellowship with the Holy Spirit, that thing is just… gone.
I wake up, and it’s like it never existed. Even if it’s a human being, a pastor, a bishop—whoever it is—once it becomes a distraction, it’s removed.

I won’t go into too many examples, but I believe you understand what I’m saying. In some cases, people I deeply cared about even passed away—not because I didn’t love them, but because they had become the focus of my heart at a time when my heart belonged to God.

I recognized the pattern, and I made a decision:
I will never take my heart away from the Lord—for anyone or anything.
Not because I’m hard-hearted, but for everyone’s good. When God truly has your heart, everything else finds its rightful place.

GSW:
Emotions aren’t all bad—if we learn to master them.

The problem is, most of us are at their mercy. Our emotions toss us around, flinging us in whatever direction they choose. But the goal is to rule and reign over them, not allow them to dictate our present or our future.

In Genesis 4, God told Cain:
“Master your emotion!”

That still applies to us today.

No one can break my heart. You might pinch it, but I’ll just laugh until I heal.
I won’t die like a mere man because of emotions.

We break God’s heart all the time, and He doesn’t go into emotional shock.
But we—we are the ones always getting emotionally overwhelmed over everything.

We need to grow.

GSW:
It’s only when it comes to love that we start dragging God into our pain—and I’m honestly laughing too much right now, even here at the bank.

When a woman hurts a man, God becomes the target—and the same happens when a man hurts a woman. Haba!

As believers, our hearts must be stable—not easily broken by anything. Even when you’re hurting, see it as part of the journey. Part of the story.

Pain is proof that you’re alive. The dead don’t feel anything.

GSW: Some believers who came ahead of us delayed the prophecy till now because they know that the true knowledge of the gospel has not spread all over the world. Religion is what has spread and it has no enduring salvation. Man is the king over religion The devil is the key influence. Jesus is the king over the gospel and he made us Kings and priests to rule over the gospel with him. This is how you differentiate religion from Christianity. Are the members or participants ruling like kings or being enslaved like
mere men? Many that think they are saved now are in for a rude shock if the rapture happens now.

Imagine those who don’t believe in the Holy Spirit among the Christian sect? Imagine those who don’t believe in speaking in tongues. Imagine those who don’t believe in eternal life and eternal redemption. they are Christians too. Yet they do not know the Lord yet. So to say the prophecy is set in stone is true but the timing is not now for the antichrist to come. He cannot move his agenda forward. There is a set order. Unless we become complacent and allow ourselves to suffer. Because the devil will not force the hand of God. We will just suffer for nothing. And the rapture will be delayed yet because the devil
will not dictate to God when the trumpet must sound.

Many of our Christian children are already falling for the transgender indoctrination. It is part of suffering. We as parents are already experiencing the effect of the lies and deceit of the evil one perpetrated through his agents and the media. Books are changing. The obvious is now being taught as ignorance. The abominable is now being pushed as the new normal. They are standing logic on its head and we are ignoring it. I have a niece who almost fell into the lesbian indoctrination thing in the USA. Thank God for my mum’s quick observation. The current govt insists that when a child begins to show certain tendencies the parents must be removed from the equation. The child becomes the ward of the government. Laws have been passed to this effect. The abomination that causes desolation according to Matthew 24. It is happening and we are ignoring it. Or just going about our own businesses. Let us not sleep at our post please.

We have a duty to awake those who are sleeping. From church to church and from heath to heath. Those who know him must come to the full understanding of who they are in him. Those who don’t must come to know him. We know the truth now and we must spread it.

The issue of pastors and church denominations have been answered above. On the issue of covid and the testing for the one who will can bear the child, the experiment failed woefully. I pray it did. The alternative would be that they have identified a woman through the vaccine whose chromosomes had been altered to XY so that she can carry the antichrist.

GSW: We should learn to see beyond the surface. The devil is creating a religion in order to find the seed of the son of man. Jesus was the seed of the woman. I have shared this with us before and I am reiterating it. For the seed of man to come, LGBTQ+ must become legal and acceptable world wide. Once this is allowed, Christians won’t be allowed to cast out demons again. Demons then will have a legal right to live on the earth with us. Before now, once we see demons we cast them out therefore they cannot stay on the earth legally and this then disrupts the plan of the enemy. All he is looking for is one transgender who will get pregnant. The child has to be accepted and celebrated as normal. The seed of man, unregenerated man with the seed of sin and the seed of a demon. That will be the antichrist. The spirit of the antichrist has been in the world for over three thousand years. But it is yet to produce a living being. This is not about morality. Or crassness or modesty and good behavior or eloquence It is also not about you.

Many who are looking at migrating to the USA and other European countries for their own good are praying the one who is keeping the gates open will let them in. All the issues of immigration many are praying for is towards an end. The Bible tells us that our own gates in Zion is lifted upwards. The gates of hell opens sideways. Men are the gatekeepers, not angels. They are not opening the gate to men for the sake of population increase and the election only, they are searching for the one with the right
genes to produce the seed of man. It is spiritual. Increasing the samples for the experiment. We must not see things in black and white. There is a depth we must aspire to dig deep into in order to understand the reality being created by the western world. I don’t know either Trump or Kamala personally and I don’t really want to know them. I however desire to know the plan of God for nations. If we know God’s plan we will then understand who is backing the plans and who is not. This helps us in deciding how to pray and who to pray for or stand with. The funny thing is, the seed of man shall be found and the antichrist will be born. It is not yet clear if it will be a male or a female but it will be born.

If it is a female, her seed will then be the antichrist. But this seed cannot be born in Africa or China or India. It will have to be born in a country where it will be accepted and dwell legally. It will be a scientific wonder and it will capture all the headlines from birth. The first of its kind just like Jesus. We have a duty to delay its birth. To push for the advancement of the gospel for as long as we can and to as many as we can reach. We can’t just throw in the towel. The war in Ukraine is the reason for food shortage in many countries in Africa. When people are hungry they migrate. We saw this with Abraham and with Jacob and Ruth’s family. So the illegal migration issues and unrests are part of the agenda. There is a goal that the enemy is suing for. We should know it and not fall for propaganda. Let’s keep our eyes on the ball. Trump is not a globalist and he will not support wars and the transgender plan. This is the delay we need. If after him another like him becomes president we would have pushed that agenda for another 4,8 or 12 years. The more we delay the better. I want Jesus to return but at the moment we have so many things we have left undone. Someone wrote to me that we should let things be and fold our arms. She said so that
Jesus can come quickly. What do you guys think? I told her I don’t want to be like the foolish virgins. If I fold my arms and Jesus comes and says “You folded your arms GSW” I will just be crying

GSW: When I was in the uni. A lady who does not tolerate unholiness left home to go and see her boyfriend. Because she didn’t want to lie, she switched off her phone. Her parents started calling. Phone was saying switched off. They got worried and drove all the way to our school. She got to school a few minutes before they did. School gate closes by 6pm. She came in 5:45. Then she switched on her phone. Her parents were five minutes away from the school gate. Then she came to meet me. I should go and block her parents from checking the sign in register at the gate. That was the only way they would have confirmed when she got to school I said Ha. Sister Motilola, Holiness until the Lord is our mandate.. She said GSW if you don’t help me I am dead.

I said but your daddy and mummy said you don’t lie. You now want me to go and lie for you. She said just block them from seeing that register. I said but they will ask after you. . She said “Tell them i am on my period and slept off as soon as I got to school” I said why me. She said My parents trust you. Did I help her or not? I did. I ran to the school gate. Her parents saw me. I said whatever I needed to say and
they returned home in peace. Later I realized aunty has a boyfriend. Plus lying and making me lie. Her sins were plenty. Because she didn’t want to tell her parents the truth about having a boyfriend. Everybody got involved in her wahala.

If only her parents were open enough to understand that times change. And not be so rigid, they wouldn’t have had to stress themselves and be so worried about her. A driver would have taken her to
see the guy and waited to pick her and bring her to school. A teacher pays attention to events and activities around the world and helps the church situate these things in the right context or see them through the lens of the scripture. You don’t have to love chickens to have a poultry. You don’t have to love pigs to have a piggery. Good doctors don’t love people. They love the job. If I have a choice between
someone who loves people to do a surgery as against a professional who does not love people, I will take a professional. Pastors who love people end up like Aaron.

Doing whatever the people wanted. Pastors must love God and then serve the people. The line of divisions must be very clear. I love the Lord and I will do His will to the benefit of His people. It is very difficult to love God and people at the same time. I can’t do it.

GSW: you are in “trouble” sir
To get out of trouble, you have to do two things.

1. Become a yes man to your pastors and leaders in church whenever they are doing church programme. 2. Organize special meetings where you can now do special things learnt from here. Special programme don’t fall within the jurisdiction of the church’s doctrine. So you won’t clash.

We had to start Night of Glory when I was with RCCG. It was not a church program. So they can’t tell me to wear suit. And you can’t tell me who to invite or who will minister. At a point my parish pastor and assistant and ministers stopped coming. We just take over the church that day. And we give them all the offering. Everything. And we buy fuel in the gen. We even built them

GSW: Most teachers can pastor but most pastors can’t teach. Teaching here is not the same as making a speech or preaching or writing. Teaching in its true sense means “Bringing forth relevant divine and spiritual updates to the body of Christ from the Holy Spirit in a manner that will be most adoptable for the church” For example, there were doctrines that were made for some churches in 1940, by the founders of those churches at that time. The pastors adhered to those doctrines at that time. And they
taught it to the people of God. Times changed, the doctrines didn’t. And now those churches are in a crisis. Teachers in the body would have brought forth new and improved directions and taught it to the pastors of those churches so that those churches adapt and are kept relevant.

Apostle Paul was a good teacher. He was an excellent man of God. Some of his doctrines were good for the season they were written and some are now irrelevant. Women not to talk in church is not a good idea today. Women covering head is not worthy of doctrine now because all of them are wearing wigs now. Wig na head cover on its own. I wrote that to say there are things the good apostle wrote that time has overtaken. I was addressing a youth church some years ago. They were about 70 in number. They
were having their annual anniversary. None of them, male and female was a virgin. They were aged 17-24. Their pastor was preaching to them that they must marry as virgins. Marriage bed undefiled theory. They were hearing him but he was asking for something that is impossible to give. I was watching the youth as the man was speaking. When he was done, I taught them the power of grace and how it overturns every blemish.

I told them they should not see themselves as unworthy of marriage or a good home or grace
because they were all sexually active. I told them to preserve themselves for their own peace of mind not because God will kill them or not let them have children or make them poor. When I was done the pastor was unhappy with me. The following Sunday, the youth church members joined my fellowship. Many of them. By fellowship, I mean RCCG church that I was pastoring at the time. Their pastor came to complain to my senior pastor that the guys wanted sweet gospel and easy words and that my sweet mouth is taking them to hell. I said okay. My senior pastor called me and asked me what happened. I said he should ask the guys that just joined us. He asked them. They said they cannot become virgins again but they want to serve God so they chose the one who will teach them how to serve God and live a worthy life rather than the one who will make them feel sorry all the days of their life for not being virgins. That
pastor has twin daughters. A year later, both of them got pregnant for the same keyboardist in church. Hypocrisy is what rigidity leads to. I am a teacher, I understand that knowledge is being increased according to the word of Jesus in Matthew 24. As knowledge is being increased spiritually, the church must be updated. This is my calling.

GSW: If a pastor is moving in the wrong direction, call the attention of His teacher to the matter. You see how Paul was putting Timothy to order and also for Titus, Ephraphas and Philemon. In today’s language they will say you should talk to His father in the Lord that may be a pastor to others but that is the pastor’s teacher. In some churches they use a church council etc. But it all always comes down to one man.

All the pastors I know eventually get overtaken by the office. It becomes everything to them. I mean it consumes them because it is a full time job throughout their lives. You can’t take a vacation from being a pastor. You can neither sleep nor rest. Once you enter it, it is stronger than your marriage or your love for your parent or your children. Sometime if the pastor is not careful, the job takes him away from God. He wouldn’t even know it. Eli was a good pastor. Samuel was a good pastor too.

David was greater than both of them. Jesus is the best and Jesus is no pastor. Na teacher. David was a pastor not a teacher. The best pastor in the old testament was David. The worst was Eli. In the new Testament, the best Pastors were those who stayed in touch with their teacher. Titus, Timothy, Lazarus, etc had their strong connection with Paul. Paul was not a pastor. He was a teacher. He helps pastors keep their center. They also help him keep his center. A teacher is more concerned about the pastors. The pastor is more concerned about the flock. The teacher however is a member of the flock too so, the
cycle is complete. I am writing this now because we are growing. So we must understand how this works
and replicate it. Pastors on their own can easily become a cult. Without a teacher or teachers they will go astray with their religious dogma. Teachers on their own are disruptors, they need to lead and be led in that delicate balance. All the other offices are given the right balance when these roles are properly
fulfilled and balanced.

GSW: Your mummy is very wise. Awww. My heart is warming up in the right places.

GSW: It should not be respect based on performance. It should be a natural respect

GSW: She should have run into the kitchen immediately and chased him out. As soon as she saw that his mother had arrived. You run into the kitchen and lock the door. You let him do quickie so that he will sweat. When he comes out, Mama will be saying “My son is well taken care of” and you will keep your home. Couples must understand the dynamics of their relationships and how they can support each other. Your private world and your public world are not the same. If your husband is the type that does not assist with any domestic chore, please don’t fight him.

GSW: They all end up here. Wearing bad character like a medal and going about writing stuff on social media. Becoming a life coach helping ladies in bad marriages to put their bad husbands in their place and people listen to them.

GSW: Now this might need a bit of subtle adjustment from the man. Not forced.

GSW: Depends on the woman. Some women or wives do not seem to understand that their strength is not for public display. It is subtle and under the sheet or behind closed doors. They want to form Ninja with their husband in public. So he then puts them in their place. It bruises the ego and some don’t learn on time. But public demand of respect from a husband is not the husband’s fault. The wife should not have to make him ask or fight for it. When you guys now get inside the house, friends are gone and you guys are doing chummy chummy lovey dovey, you tell him to do anything, he will be doing it. Touch here. He will. Sit there, he will. It is your space now. But in that public place, your job is to make him look good. Present him as a man who has his home in order. Some years ago, three years ago, we had the Supernatural Convention at Surulere.

I told my ex-wife about it. She said she has another Christian meeting she wanted to attend that day. I said Okay. It was on October 1, and we had a public Holiday. Service started, things were buzzing as they should. An usher came to announce to me that my ex-wife and children were around. I announced to the whole church, everybody stood up to welcome her. She refused to enter the auditorium. We all waited and waited. Eventually she walked in, looking sad and unhappy. People were greeting her, she refused to
acknowledge the greeting. They made T-shirts for her, she refused to collect the T-shirts. She came up, I tried my best to make up the gap, and then she left. It was not the first time though. Throughout the marriage, whenever she wanted to show her displeasure about anything, either imagined or real, she will do it in public. She will come to church on the day you are preaching, sit in front and begin to weep. She
does this so that someone will walk up to her and ask her what was wrong.. Then she will drag you and use you to mop the floor usually over non-issues.

My younger brother was opening a restaurant. We all went there and we had a great party. She arrived. The MC announced that she had arrived. She refused to acknowledge the MC or the people she met there. In both cases, she should have just stayed away but she will never miss an opportunity to give me the finger in public I told the mother what has been going on one day. The mother called and asked her
what the issue was. She said when I met him, he was a guy I could never respect. I could value him for what he does or his intelligence but he was not the kind of guy I could respect. Now he has become a big deal and it is suddenly a crime not to respect him. That people call him GSW does not mean I see him as GSW. To me he is Sammy, that guy that used to carry beans to go an grind for me when we first got married. I cannot respect him and if he wants this marriage to last, he would stop being GSW and return
to Sammy. That Sammie is the one I can cope with. Not this one that is a nobody and people are treating like a big deal. I can never respect you, do you hear me, I can never respect any man. Respect is not meant only for Royal stock though. A woman who desires to be married must know this as well as I know my name, respect your man. Don’t pretend to respect him. Respect him. Don’t marry a man you cannot respect.

GSW: That was not the context though. We must imagine things in their natural courses. Not like a stage play. Husband and wife wakes up daily, husband makes breakfast while the wife is asleep. He does this naturally and out of love. He wants his wife to rest. Then they got a visitor. The husband then didn’t go make the food. He told the wife to go make it. That is the husband protecting his wife and not allowing her to become the topic of discussion among his friends and family members. If his mother comes to visit, it will be wise of him not to go cook or wash plates etc. Especially if his mother or parents are very conservative in their thinking and level of exposure.

That was what the example stated. A husband does things himself but when his friends are around he does not. He asks his wife to do them. That was the case presented.

I wanted you to see that it is a real life issue being discussed, it has its own context and settings. That we read it here might lead us to jump to the wrong conclusions like The husband trying to demean his wife or use her to make a point. I know @~Bisi Qalalia Diete-Spiff’s husband personally and he is a perfect gentleman. A royal man from royal stock. A man of timber and caliber. That context was not added in
her assertion. He doesn’t have to do anything if he does not want to. The fact that he does, makes him a very homely and humble man. Being a prince however demands that some things cannot be done by him in the presence of his friends especially when his wife is around. There must be an order to things. Perception is everything.

GSW: A wise wife will not allow it to be tested. Once a wise husband realizes he is struggling to be respected in his own marriage, the marriage is over. This buttresses the issue of respect we talked about earlier. This is Mariah Carey’s first husband. She was a superstar. He married her. He said he loved her. He wanted the best for her but it was difficult for him to thrive in her shadow. He kept asking himself if this was the kind of life he wanted to have.

If Mariah Carey was a man, his wife would have fitted in naturally and those ego issues wouldn’t have been an issue. It underscores the fundamental psychological difference between a man and a woman. A rich guy meets a babe, marries her and his money becomes their money or it is expected that his money is their money. A rich woman marries a guy and the dynamics are not the same. He keeps seeing himself in a light and the public sees him in that light too. Like he is a gold digger

GSW: That question was what Vashti was asking while they were throwing her load out of the palace.

GSW: He is a good man. All he is asking for is respect me in front of my friends. I won’t disturb you when we are alone. It is important to see that for what it is. A man wants respect. That respect is not usually for himself. It is based on how people perceive him. Remember what led to the fall of Vashti. It was the disrespect in public. The king still loved her but the disrespect did her in.

We don’t spend courtship days resolving conflicts. There are less conflicts recorded in the early days. Some conflicts are born of current situation. Some born of environmental and social factors. And conflicts change as a couple age. Conflicts regarding children, choices of school, food etc. conflicts regarding relocation, conflicts regarding economic decisions. You cannot “know the fullness of conflict” while dating. So it is a moot point to be looking for conflict while courting. Enjoy your courtship. Have sense.

GSW: It is how they see it. What I hear them say.

I am being drawn into issues that demand so much from me emotionally. They now make me the bad person for telling them the truth. One wrote to me and said “You are the one that said salvation is eternal, now my husband is cheating freely saying he will not go to hell” I said Yeh! What has one got to do with the other? Is it hell that will keep your husband from cheating? Husband that was already with another woman before I met you people. It is now my fault. That myth that men don’t have sense is not right. Men want to have sex. Women want to marry. So you see the issue? Ladies want the guys to want marriage. So if he does not want marriage to them he does not have sex.

The problem is another lady is selling the market for cheaper somewhere. Selling sex on black market. Men will now go and buy black market. Women will now say they don’t have sense. If you see dollar cheap, you no go buy? Women forget timing is critical to their decision making. You can reverse many things by the Spirit but you cannot reverse the same for others. So you can command yourself to keep looking younger than your age and even do plastic surgery.

A 40 year old dating a 20 year old knows she is deceiving herself. If the boy is compliant, his family, friends and society will not be compliant. When ladies ask me why they can’t marry younger men, I tell them they can. But it depends on what you want out of the union. You are sleeping with someone 5 years younger than you but you don’t want his friends to be disrespecting you and calling you by name because you are older than them. A man has the authority to correct his wife’s age mates who are unruly and they will comply. A woman cannot do the same. His friends will have to be your friends for you to
have a good relationship with him otherwise you isolate him from his social circle and find yourself befriending a bitter person. We all won’t marry at the same time or have children at the same time. Comparing yourself with others will seriously hurt you. Understanding the time and taking advantage of it to fulfil your vision in life is also very key.

GSW: Men are scarce Pastor sir. Endangered Specie. If you catch one. Anyone. Just be managing it.

Always the smarter ones! They are smart until they fall in love with one mumu who will be collecting their hard earned money to gamble and then beg them to take him back because instead of wife, they have evolved into his mother. Smart to know losing weight will save their lives but praying for a miracle to keep the weight while healing the heart at the same time. Smart to know checking his phone is a bad idea and still checking it all the same so that they can make their heart beat fast and cry blood. Smart enough to know they jam talk but they still jam talk all the same because they have mouth. I had a case that made me cry on Saturday. Husband is impotent. He told wife. Wife accepted to stay with him. Then he comes out ten years later to tell wife that he had a child outside of wedlock. Gaslighting the wife now that she is the barren one.

Despite tons of medical reports proving she is fine and he has zero sperm. And wife believed him. Imagine that. This smart, educated, well raised mature woman was weeping and asking me for a miracle and I was like, You don’t need a miracle. You are dumb. As in if you see a miracle you won’t recognize it. You can’t think. I have been teaching critical thinking for this reason in the last few weeks. Seems decision making is an issue. I understand the men, when they stay in a bad relationship. I don’t understand the women especially when the women are the victims. For the men, they didn’t take home training complete and it is not an elective course so if you don’t allow your mummy to train you, another girl from Sango Ota will do it on her behalf so I get that. For the ladies however, men are not in charge of home training so you are just suffering for nothing. That one said she feels she will offend God if she does not give
her money to Mr. Appiah. Imagine that! I felt like just hanging my boot when I heard that. In what planet does that argument make sense? You are the one working, feeding the children, paying bills and you are sending money to a man who will use it to gamble steadily. That mumu button is red in colour. Bright red.

GSW: NIV: Hebrews 13:4: “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”

The Marriage Bed. Not the Single’s Bed. I am not asking singles to start sleeping around o. Na Bible I dey explain. If you have chosen to get married, you must honour the marriage bed and keep your vow. It is the married that have a marriage bed.

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He who finds a wife! That is what the Bible says. Many of us do not understand that the total make up and lifestyle of a believer cannot be separated. You are not living according to heavenly culture but you want heavenly wife or husband. E no go work. I have seen marriages brought together by prophecy that failed spectacularly. If God gives you a partner, God won’t keep the partner for you. And God is not involved in imperfect schemes. So God does not give anybody a wife. That is the truth. God didn’t
give Abraham Sarah. He didn’t give Rebeccah to Isaac. He did’nt give Rachel or Leah to
Jacob. He didn’t give Mary to Joseph. He won’t give you a wife sir.

Find a wife, and love your wife. Don’t find a girlfriend o and love a girlfriend. Find a wife, it is the one you marry that you love. All those telling their boyfriends I love you are just joking. Love is the exclusive preserve of the married. For it has been sealed with a vow of intentionality.

The singles in a relationship have no love to give or offer. Love only comes after marriage. All those infatuation feelings and legs shaking feeling are just hormones and whatever. You can like someone o. But you cannot love anyone before marrying them. Husband, love your wife!!! That is scripture. That is why we have many exes and we even forget why we dated them in the first place. We should stick with the values and principles of the kingdom.

Some of us are fond of asking a guy if he loves us. He too will say he does. Then he will dump you tomorrow. How can he give you something that he does not have? The grace to love only comes upon a man after he has gotten married to his wife. And the grace to “submit” only comes upon the wife after marriage.

Have you seen a submissive girlfriend before? She looks pathetic and pitiable. Submitting to a man you are not married to makes you look weak and helpless. I remember a brother I know, he was dating a lady. He calls her “Iya yi” and she calls him Oba. They both act like they were married. She cooks and scrubs. He provides. One day she went to the market and met another guy. He asked her out. Bought her a phone
instantly. Gave her tons of money. Instead of returning within the hour. She was out for hours. She became afraid her boyfriend will ask her questions she can’t answer when she gets home. The new guy took her to his house. And the relationship was over. Her submission to him is not protected by love that comes with marriage. After marriage, she bears his name and takes on his culture and lifestyle. She submits not only to him but to his lifestyle and way of doing stuff. Learn this. Before marriage, she can never submit in truth. Before marriage he can never love in truth. Hope this is clear

GSW: Tell him you know he is incapable of loving you the right way. Steer conversations away from such. You can actually see intentionality demonstrated rather than stated in words. many of us are equally carried away by profession of love rather than deeds of love. Especially ladies. He should be demonstrating love rather than typing it like a secretary bird. But the world has wired us to be talking about things that ought to be done and doing things that ought to be spoken about. It is all upside down.

GSW: If a guy or lady loves you, it is demonstrated by the action of the person. Then the guy comes with a proposal. Proposal is actually intention to love and stay true to that which has been found. But his true evidence of love is marriage. In the Christian context, if he found you worthy of marrying you, it means he loves you truly. Then your response to him is submission. Because you have agreed to go with him into the future and make his people your people and His God your God.

So while you are still in the talking stage know that if he says I love you, he really doesn’t mean it that way. He meant I am fond of you. Or you are my favorite person or you are BAE. He simply can’t love because the grace to love in a Christian sense comes only after the marriage. Not before. All those “Show me your love”, “Prove your love” na scam.

GSW: Boo is beau. BEA is before anyone else. there is nothing wrong with both. God loves you but if you don’t accept Jesus Christ as lord and savior that love is not the saving love oh, it is the sorry for you love

GSW: They were together and she delivered and he didn’t marry her. There is nothing like Bastard in Israel’s culture or a child born out of wedlock. They give spouses to sons as early when the boy is one year old.

She was his betrothed. Not his wife and he never got married to her because in the Jewish culture, the wife of the older who is dead can have children through the younger brother but that child will be named and given the right of the one who had died. This is what Kinsman redeemer means.

Redeeming the lineage of the dead by the living one without any paternal claim to the child whatsoever. Jesus was the Son of God.

GSW: Joseph had no paternal claim. It is like the case of Boaz and Ruth. Obed is actually the child of Ruth’s late husband. Not Boaz. Boaz was the one that slept with her but that first child belong to Naomi’s dead child that married Ruth. Is this understood?
The same principle applies to Mary and Joseph. Even though Joseph is her husband. Her first child was for God. Joseph cannot claim paternal right. He can also have the woman but not via an official marriage. The way Boaz didn’t have an official marriage with Ruth. She was a redeemed wife already married into the family she does not need to do a second wedding.

GSW: In Israel, you don’t marry an individual. You marry into a family. Essentially all the men younger than your husband in a family are also potential husbands to the bride. That is their culture. On the woman’s side she can buy slaves and give them to her husband to have children by but she will claim the children as her own. So the culture goes both ways. In the case of Joseph, He was betrothed to a virgin. God then came and took the right of husbandship from him. He then became Mary’s second husband. God being the first. God even gave her a new name or title ” Blessed one”

GSW: It does not work for everybody ma. For some, it affirms their maternal role. There is a need to be educated. Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to your marriage. Remember that! All we are doing is help each other gain a deeper perspective of the reality we should be walking in as believers. Some of us are too unknowledgeable and unprepared to make the best of the world we live in. A closed mind is an unfruitful mind. The place to start flourishing in life is your mind. If you have a poor mind you will be
poor. A rich person may be poor in mind about other things. The mind is key to living the best life God has for you through the Holy Spirit. Knowledge is key in these things. With all thy getting, get Understanding.

GSW: Yes please. Some are not touched by it while it melts some others.

GSW: You guys and extremes. The percentage of people with mouth odor is not that high. If the mouth is smelling tell him or her politely and kindly. A good kisser comes for the bra sooner or later. The longer the kiss, the more endangered the bra. It is what it is. You don’t need practical for this class. It is why I taught it. You need to have the knowledge so when the moment comes you are not ignorant. Let me make you laugh. One of us, when I met her. Long before she became a minister. Her husband came home after a long journey. Just one kiss, she knew he had kissed someone else. She called me and said “Brother Gbenga, my husband naturally is a lazy kisser but that day I sensed an urgency. I knew. And she was right

GSW: We all don’t kiss the same. Once we get a rhythm we like we settle. But if we kiss someone else the rhythm changes. You wonder where she learnt that one or where he knew how to do that. Then you sense someone else is teaching him or her something new.

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GSW: Kiss has nothing to do with microorganisms abeg. Under your nails alone you get them. Live your life. Germs koh, tongues ni. A good kisser can wipe your memory for two minutes. You will be asking yourself “Where am I? Where are my clothes?” Kisses has been turning frogs to princes since the days of sleeping beauty. Brush your mouth before I can kiss you is a total turn off. The kiss would have lost its spirit. Na just the carcass to remain. The joy of a kiss is in its spontaneity. A kiss is half the prize

Go and kiss yourself in the mirror ma. Only you can kiss you. It means you guys have gotten very comfortable with each other and now want to take it to the next level. If he must apply to kiss you, or if you see it coming, it is a bad relationship. A good relationship starts from friendship and gets into gear with a kiss.

Unless you are doing RCCG relationship. A marriage counselor I met once said she can’t sleep with her husband unless he showers and come on the bed without a spot on his
body. I said Mummy you shouldn’t be Counselling people. You are not very fine. RCCG
strong tower parish. She is their marriage counselor. This is how the chemistry grows. You begin to learn each other’s non verbal cues from
the kiss. What does she likes? What does he likes? How does she look when she wants a
kiss? How does he look or smile when he wants me to kiss him? You pay attention to
body language. How fast are his fingers in unclasping the bra? So you time it. And say
stop now. Before you forget where you are. You are making me teach oooo. A kiss is a language of love That must be spoken well. I mean it. The value of a kiss
cannot be overemphasized. Once you see it beyond just the physical whatever. You can
disarm a volatile situation with a kiss. You can seal a deal with one. You can keep him
faithful with one. He can do the same to you. Keep you thinking of him all day. Just with
that kiss. If you guys have a very good understanding of it. The hormones agree with me. I have met people who dislike or disdain kisses. They are mostly hard people. I can tell
the kind of person you really are at heart when I ask your spouse how you kiss. Tender
or brutal? Demanding or giving? Does kiss always lead to sex or not with you? Do you
mind kissing in public? Do you feel intruded upon when the tongue comes in? Or do you
avoid the tongue all together? Do you fence kiss? Giving and taking the attack and
defense? Switching roles? Or are you a defensive kisser? Or predominately offensive?
Are you a selective kisser or do you kiss as many people as you can in the name of
relationship?
A kiss says a lot. You can also know if your spouse is cheating with a kiss. If he or she
has kissed someone else recently you will notice the change.

GSW: Ha! That one, you know he is not the one but that kiss has a life of its own. I drove this car before. Na accident las las

I Came to the beach once with a very beautiful girl. We were not friends like that. We met in church on a Sunday and she said she will be going to the beach the next weekend. I can’t even remember how I ended up on the trip.

After some hours at the beach, we both stepped into the water. The waves were heavy. So we held each other’s hand. Then I had a very good idea Why not kiss?
I cannot say if it was the proximity that brought the idea or the waves of the sea but it was the best and most sensible idea in the world to me at that moment. So I asked her Can I kiss you?
She looked at me, shook her head and did her face like inyanma.
I smiled. Then she said “Why did you ask me that” I said “One day, you will be in your office, or at a beach, or somewhere all alone and a moment will come to you. Would rather it is this moment of bliss and joy or a moment that is so ordinary it wouldn’t make you smile” My words trailed off in the wind for a
moment. Then she turned and kissed me like her life depended on it…

I just remembered that marks man moment a few minutes ago! I get lines abeg abeg! If she said “Think of it” We no go hear this gist now. God bless that sister. I like guys to have that command over words. I am not drawn to people who are unmoved by words.

A friend of mine was toasting a babe, wrote her a poem. Lady replied “Is this what your mates use to woo a girl” I didn’t like that at all. Some girls are only moved by money o. If you like be deaf and dumb, if you get money she don love you. Funny enough, every time I come to the beach and have a quiet moment. I remember that kiss.

GSW:
The woman will need to change—not by force, but patiently, through building up her children and husband with her words and attitude.

She must let go of all hurt and complaints and accept the challenges she faces as a form of penance.

She should radiate love and understanding so deeply that the entire family becomes convinced she is no longer the bitter woman she once was.

We haven’t addressed the most important part of this story—the suicide of her son. When a mother feels unloved by her husband and powerless, she often confides in her child or children. She shares all the pain, frustrations, and negative feelings she has toward her husband and the marriage. I’ve seen this happen in many homes and marriages.

Some children are emotionally strong and can separate truth from falsehood, but others are more vulnerable and absorb everything they hear completely. In this case, her eldest son was closest to her and bore the full weight of her misery. She poured her pain into him, lamenting and burdening him with all her woes. Sadly, the boy fell into depression and eventually took his own life.

This is why she now feels overwhelming guilt and wants to leave the marriage. She didn’t want to leave before, but now she’s desperate, knowing that her son’s death was a result of this heavy emotional burden she passed on.

I understand the feelings involved, but I want to ask some important questions:

• If you leave the marriage, how will you take care of yourself?
• What about the possibility of a new relationship at age 50?
• What about the children and their emotional well-being?

She told me she’s comfortable leaving the other children with her husband, admitting he is the better parent. She’s essentially trying to run away from her guilt. The son she was closest to was the one who died because of the emotional weight she gave him. Let’s all learn from this.

Additionally, she has no income, no support system, and no one to help her. Yet, she is determined to leave and even wants to travel abroad to start fresh—alone and without any intention of remarrying. This is important for all of us to understand.

I can share many stories of parents who fell into this same trap, and how it ultimately destroyed their children—especially their firstborn or favorite child. Don’t ruin your children’s lives by venting your frustrations on them. They deserve to live good, healthy lives without carrying your burdens. Keep your baggage to yourself. This applies not just to the first child. I know a woman who singled out her third-born son, did the same, and he also died. He hated his father because he only saw him through the negative lens his mother created.

Let your children live independently of your struggles. This is crucial.

I also know a woman who lost her home because she saw her husband only through the stories her mother told about her own father. She’s now been divorced three times. Mothers are powerful influencers, and some children are highly impressionable. Don’t badmouth your spouse to your children. Women do this more than men, but it always ends up harming the child. We must all learn from this.

The way forward for this woman is not divorce. If she leaves alone, she risks her life. At 50, it may be too late to teach her son anything, especially since the other children are distant from her because of past mistakes. The husband likely told the children she was responsible for the first son’s death. Male children tend to be closer to their mother, female children closer to their father. Notice how she said the other children are close to their dad and will be fine without her. She is isolated because of the choices she made—and this is why she feels like an outsider in the family she helped build.

If you have been doing this, stop. It will only end in tears and sorrow.

As I close, I want to say that all our counsel and comments here are well-intentioned. We come from different backgrounds and life experiences, so all perspectives are welcome—whether it’s separation, divorce, or something else. But we must always ask the Holy Spirit what the way forward is. He does not want anyone to perish.

This woman may never win back her husband’s heart. If she were my wife, after losing a child, there would be no turning back. I would do everything to protect the other children from her. That said, she is still a child of God who has made many wrong choices.

As a wife and woman, it’s important to work. This gives you channels to pour your energy into instead of pouring it onto your children. Even without a 9-to-5 job, find a purpose, a project, or a vision to pursue. This is vital.

Marriages are tough. I won’t pretend it’s easy all the time. You must be able to add value to the marriage beyond managing the home and sex. Not all men prioritize sex; some just want children and to fulfill their destiny. Especially in ministry, it’s tough to have a husband willing to have sex four times a week!

Without a job, where will you channel your energy?

I remember my wife once told me she spends time praying for me. I told her no—I don’t need that prayer, and I meant it. Because if she prays for me, she might one day claim, “You achieved this because of my prayer,” which would be a lie. I can pray my own prayers and get there myself.

Many in ministry are single and still doing great exploits. You don’t need a spouse to be your backbone. Both husband and wife must support themselves and fulfill their destiny.

Her husband obviously didn’t see her prayers as a job or source of income. When pastors who are financially comfortable tell their wives to work, it’s because they know prayer alone won’t pay the bills. She needs a job to channel her energy away from the children and stop filling their ears with bitterness.

I have a pastor friend whose wife is a true gift. When he ministers, she prays, receives visions, and sends him notes at the altar. They are based in California, USA, and their ministry is flourishing because they are aligned and codependent in a healthy way. If your prayers have no impact, please don’t bother.

The Lord will heal this marriage, and the woman will learn and grow. There will be no burden of guilt or divorce. It may take time, but she will win back her home. There may not be sex, but there will be love.

I love you all. You are my joy, and this fellowship is the glory of Jesus everywhere.

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You are Hozeh. See how you established an already given prophecy without knowing it was already prophesied?
We can do this if we are of one accord. But the children of darkness are smart now. They give your other prophets money to prophesy for them. Like Balak did for Balaam. Thus our voices were never one. This is the problem. A house divided does not stand. When they were of one accord on the day of Pentecost. Means agreement. Whatever we agree to must work but many are like Judas. They feed their bellies at the expense of the will of God.

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Many listen to their soul and wishes but not to the Lord. Human government is fallen and of men. God has given man dominion. The devil took it and men in darkness still take instructions from him. Men of the light ought to listen to the Lord to know his desire on issues. Since the prevailing system is fallen and human, it does not mean the will of God will come to pass automatically. God chooses or elects. Men do coups or rig or cheat their way into power. God does not get involved in such. In 1999 Obasanjo vs Falaye. God said Falaye. The people chose Obasanjo. It is their government and they chose the man they desired.

I always use this as my litmus test. In the realm of men, God’s will does not always prevail. In the realm of light, God’s will prevails. The world is made of people in the realm of darkness and the realm of light. And some in the realm of light are biased towards the individual preferred by the realm of darkness. Then they
begin to speak from their sight and convictions. Negating the will of God and convincing their
followers to do the same. Sentiment and prophecy go hand in hand in the spirit of manipulation. The prophet should be neutral and say the mind of God only as Samuel did. He had his sentiments but God told him not to look with eyes but dokimazo by the Spirit. This led to David being chosen. If he had been sentimental like many prophets today, he would have chosen one of David’s brothers. Samuel was a Raah! A prophet who speaks directly what God says. Nathan was a Hozeh!

A prophet who establishes what God has told another prophet. It was Nathan that insisted on Solomon because Samuel already called him the Beloved of the Lord. Bathsheba also talked to him and he helped convince David to choose Solomon despite Adonijah’s antics. Refer to the class note I sent yesterday please. To be a Raah! Is to be the eyes of the Rohi, the Lord who sees. Like Hagar said “The God who
sees me” El Rohi. That’s the job of a Raah! But many prophets are Hozehs, they however establish prevailing ideas and thoughts and leverage their reputation on such to convince and confuse people. Sometimes thinking they are right.

GSW: It won’t be my money. That is the point. I may have 1zillion dollars but I won’t pay
for something I disagree with in principle. I think someone should be behind bars, if you

beg me from now till tomorrow I won’t help you to bail him. You can bail him with
someone else’s money. It won’t be with my money. And if I believe I shouldn’t have
lunch, I won’t even if I am looking at Abula and amala. I apply the same principle to
myself. You get?

GSW: When issues like this happen, vultures will show face and demand their due. They
must not deny the vultures. After the family meeting, they will organize a way to keep
the girl’s welfare and she will be free of the NGO. I will ensure the lady gets therapy too.

GSW: I agree but as they grow older, they must purge themselves of these memories. It
is a must. We all saw many things when we were growing up under our parents and
guardians. Some good, many bad. Some done to us, some done to others. We grow and
then we must let those things go too. We had no right judging them because we never
know the full story. Only a part that is open to us on the issue

GSW: Children can report to another adult. Pastor, teacher, whatever

GSW: Ignore. That is cheap blackmail.

There is a man of God here, who asked me to go talk to his parents when they were at
logger head. What wisdom! He could have meditated or decided that he won’t give them
their monthly allowances if they don’t make up and have peace but he didn’t do that. He
honoured them. I learnt a lot from that.

GSW: No please. Not one example of such in the Bible. Not even one. You bow your
head and cry. And pray. And call adults or outsiders to Intervene. But you don’t put your
mouth. That door is not open to you. It is forever closed

GSW: Don’t see. Are you not listening to me at all. I will start crying. You are frustrating
me o. Don’t make me cry please.

GSW: It is a must. Not optional. A must. What did I call it? You can honour your father in prison or in death or even when they are boiling him on the fire. You can cry for him and feel for him but you must honour him. My grandparents had a bad marriage.

My grandpa will confide in his children. My grandma will confide in her children. Children ended up taking sides. Some with grandma because she was rich and strong even though abusive. The way choleric are admired from afar but never loved. The others with grandpa because he was loving, soft
and caring.

The way a melancholic/phlegmatic is admired but not really respected like one respects a boss. The children’s marriages were a mess. All the children had marital crisis. Those of them who are not dead yet have serious marital issues they are wearing make up for at the moment. And the root of the matter was that they put their mouth in the matter. They uncovered skirts that they should not. The same issue then snowballed to us. My grandpa began to confide in me and so did my grandma even as a grandchild. I had no business in the matter o. They were not supposed to drag grandchildren into it but they did. We chose
sides again, the grandchildren. As we got married I saw the same pattern.

I asked the Lord. He told me and showed me where the problem came from. Children sitting in judgement of their parents. It changes their perspective of life and people. When they get married they have a mindset that is already coloured and tainted. They attract the wrong kind of people based on the things they have heard and seen. I learnt. I changed my attitude to my parents after that. I had chosen my mother’s side and always had strong negative feelings towards my dad. I changed it. I changed it drastically. My siblings started thinking I was a traitor for abandoning the position we all took in ignorance. I didn’t care. It is one thing not to know the right thing. He who knows good and does not do it to him it is sin. I know the right thing. I must do it. I am happy I did. When my father passed, he died with joy and I was proud. No ill feeling. No negative mindset. No finally he is gone. Honour is a must. Whatever happened between parents is their business. Honour is my duty and it is a must. Chikena.

GSW: I wouldn’t have paid. I will simply stay out of it. If he raises the money elsewhere, fine. If he didn’t, let him go to jail but I won’t get involved. I won’t judge him or insult him. I will pretend I didn’t hear. I will honour my father to the last. I won’t even see him in a different way. He is my father. Then he is a man. As a man he messed up. Punish him as a man. As a son, I will honour him. He is not a man to me. He is my father. To the law he is a man. Let the law deal with the man. When they were all getting educated why was the house-help not getting educated. The girl should be in school now. You have to understand that the dynamics here makes all of them guilty. Until this crisis happened they were all. Content to leave the girl as house-help while they were getting educated and getting married.

GSW: I am not defending it. Drop your emotion and outrage. It will only lead you to making a mistake. You must judge issues with calmness. As a daughter, you do what is right by both your parents and the girl. You don’t carry a gun and kill your father. It will ruin your own children. You must think of the consequences of your action.

When you tell your children the story of how you kill your father, they will kill you too back one day whether you deserve it or not. Stories have a way of changing in meaning and importance over time. Learn this. You killed your father. Nobody bothers to talk about the reason anymore. They just label you “Father’s killer” It taints your family and children forever. So discard the outrage and emotion. Judge the issue calmly. The man did great evil.

I agree. The daughter however cannot be his judge. None of the children can be his judge. It has to be outsiders. They made the family pay 2.3Million Naira before they released the man on bail. He will still be responsible for other things including moving from where they are living. His children are already ashamed of him. A family meeting is coming up next weekend.

GSW: Report him or her. Talk to him or her to get help. The case above is not really
pedophilia. It is a I’m sleeping with a house-help. House-help is 18 not a child It is the girl
that made it seem like the girl is 13.

GSW: She was just jam talking. First she said her mother covered her father, showing her mother was complicit or aiding and abetting. The next she said they can kill each other. It was inconsistent with the mummy’s character. He was not a violent husband or father. Just a skirt chaser. So she was not judging it right.

Young pastor is better pls. Someone he can give birth to who will drag him like tiger Generator. I wish I can do it. I am very good at it self. But not to my own parents o. To people who need scolding on the outside. I am covered by my position in Christ. So I will drag him very well. Even get him to write an undertaking and letter of apology

GSW: It will be in the daughter’s best interest to report to someone who can report him. You don’t want to have that kind of knowledge. I reported my father so he got life in jail. It will damage you. You won’t be able to tell. Your children the story. There are baggage you just avoid in this life. Daddy and mummy issues are the most important of them

GSW: No please. The pastor should be very judgmental and wicked. He should tongue lash the man and flog him if possible. He is pastor for that reason. His children however must not be the one to do that.

GSW: It will not be a curse on the Holy Spirit sir. It will be a self inflicted problem that has to do with not knowing your place like a student pretending to be the lecturer can get you expelled. Even though you were just playing a prank and it is not in the school’s rule book. You must not usurp another person’s position in judging matters.

GSW: No please, that was why I didn’t want to give it vent. I didn’t want the problem to seem as if it does not have a solution already. If when we have gotten into Christ we are still like that in our thinking, we are in serious trouble. That means there will be no solution to our dilemma. Those of us who are married here and still have those sort of issues in our homes are not doing God proud in anyway. I am saying this with all boldness. To be married and be discontented or restless or unsettled or at a constant state of unease is not a New Creation’s reality. You are married, your husband has no idea what is going on in your mind but you are suffering through it because of the “marriage” even though you are unhappy and would rather do something else with your life. That is not how it is meant to be in Christiandom. Not in this reality. If that is how you are or are feeling in this reality, you cannot afford to keep quiet and suffer for nothing. I know both ends of this story.

To be married to a partner who is not satisfied in the union as an entity and still seeks other forms of validation from other things is a recipe for disaster. If you suddenly have an urge to reach for things that you and your spouse did not envisage, dream for or desire. You must watch it. I am dealing with too many cases of this type nowadays especially from ladies whose family members and friends sell lies to and they believe it at the expense of their marriages or husbands. There is a case I will be handing in Ajah on Saturday in which the wife is insisting her glory is in Abroad and the husband is not willing to travel. Her family contributed money and organized travel for her. She is going to Canada now. It was not the plan before. The plan was to set up a fashion house and her husband took a loan of 30 million to set her up just this year January. Suddenly she didn’t want that again. She now wants to relocate to Canada. Both of them are believers and the marriage is three years old, no children. Husband can’t travel because he is still paying back loans and he is running his father’s saw mill in Badagry.

If we are coming into marriage for financial benefit, let us say so with out full chest. If it is for love, let that be stated. If it is for money, it is not a crime. If it is a stepping stone to fulfilling our careers or having children etc. Let both partners be on the same page. Using our spouses to get ahead in life is cruel and ungodly. A wife should be able to talk to her husband and share her aspirations and dreams. She cannot insist on them. she however should be able to express them without any fear or shame. The husband should be able to do the same. Once it is communicated, there should be a discussion. How do we achieve this, what will it cost us, how will it affect the family. Analyze and think things through as a couple and accept the pragmatic
decision that you find to be the best for everybody. Life sometimes take some sharp turns. You can marry a journalist and he suddenly becomes a pastor. You can marry a house wife and she suddenly becomes a nurse. Personal development is not supposed to kill a marriage. it is supposed to make it
better. You are not in a competition and the win of one is the win of all.

I have seen husbands say their wives can’t do Masters or PhD or get a particular job because it will
make her earn more money. That is rubbish! Wives also should not feel inadequate due to the achievements of the Husband. This is not how marriage in this Kingdom will work. Two heads, one mind and one Spirit. That is Marriage in this Kingdom. To have unrest in a marriage is the beginning of rebellion. Eve was not settled into Adam. The serpent exploited that window. In The Godfather, Sonny and the don’s voice were not one in a negotiation and their competitor decided to solve the problem by killing the Don so that Sonny can do business with him. When a house is divided, all sorts of things will creep in. Husbands must encourage their wives to speak freely even if what they desire to say makes little or no sense. Wives must allow their husbands to speak freely even if what they desire to say makes little or no sense. Let the ideas be given free expression without any bias or fear. Who else is your spouse supposed to say rubbish to? who else is your spouse suppose to share ridiculous dreams with?

Husband and wife are always travelling, wife tells husband she wants to buy a BenZ truck. Husband said and drive it to where? we are always on the road. Wife said I just want to own one. Husband said okay. Later, wife said I don’t want to own one anymore but I want a ride in one. wife is happy. they went to town and husband rented one and they took a drive in it. if he didn’t let her get it out of her system it will become cancer. that’s how discontentment starts. Both of them should be able to talk freely even if what they want to do makes no sense. Wife wants to do masters, she bought form at Unilag and started preparing, when they gave them date of exam, it fell on their wedding day. husband said they will have to
cancel the wedding. wife said she will write the exam next year. they had the wedding. husband did not turn it to a fight or call her stupid for buying the form even though she knew it might clash with wedding date. We should not stifle each other no matter how ridiculous the desire, let us allow free expressions within our unions. wives should not turn everything to midnight talk.

Serious discussions can be hard at anytime. some of us don’t like the “I want us to talk later thing” If you have something to say, just say it. I hate the way discontentment eats at the soul of a man. I have been there and i know it never goes away until it is addressed. if you don’t allow it to be addressed and dealt with it will only grow bigger and bigger over time and then it becomes pent up emotion and people start blowing up anyhow. There is nothing wrong in having desires and there is nothing wrong with sharing them and working together to bring them to pass. Please family, implement this immediately in your marriages. Ask each other constantly, what do you dream of doing this month or this year or tomorrow, for fun and pleasure. I have learnt that marriage needs a bit of adventure. boredom is a thing for the men and neglected desire is a thing for women.

GSW: I ignored this earlier because it is not the right state of mind that anyone who is a
believer or two believers in a marriage should have. People marry now as individuals in a
partnership. They don’t really marry into a marriage. Hence those kind of issues arising.

GSW: No please. It was not a curse. God did not curse Adam or the woman. He cursed only the land. It was a reorientation of priorities. So that there will be order. Women who get tired of their husbands do so because their husbands got tired of them first or their husbands are dead weights who lived off them like parasites. Women are designed to thrive under the leadership of their husbands. A woman who is leading the husband will therefore get tired of him. A woman feeding the husband will get tired of him. A woman whose husband is Nabal will get tired of being married to a fool.

Nobody gets tired of a useful tool. If a woman is tired, her husband is obviously of no use to her anymore. So being tired for the sake of just being tired is a lie. The Yorubas have a saying “Let the woman pee while walking, let the man pee while walking. Let us see who will be drenched at the end of the peeing contest” When a man says he is tired of a marriage, he can still stay in it and be responsible and bear the marriage up with his full chest. When a woman says she is tired of a marriage. She can stay in it if there are children in it. If there are no children in it, she lets go of her part of the marriage. The man sees this, maybe waits for a while and then seeks solace elsewhere.

The thing is, the woman that claimed she is tired of a man will see another woman take the man up and treat him like a gem. This happens for many women too. It is what it is. Sometimes the woman will have
nowhere to go and still stay under the roof of the man. The man will still accommodate and be responsible for her even though they are no longer vitally married. Men do that.

A woman will throw the man out, once he has outlived his usefulness because she can’t feed him or be responsible for him. If she is the one with the financial power in the marriage.

I am handling a case now. Man is 73. Wife had given him quit notice to move out November 7. She is 43. Wife says he is no longer useful to her. Man says he made her what she is today and now in his old age she is throwing him on the street. Man said she was a fresh graduate when they met. He was a widow. He invested in her, trained her, gave her all the connection to become something in life. She works with the government and she got an official house. He sold his house and moved in with her five years ago. Now she is telling him to move. Baba says where was he to start from. I told him to move to Airbnb. She has already informed the police and filed for divorce. She is the one who got allocated the house. It is in her name.

They are not poor. If it was a man that got tired of her, he won’t treat her that way. He might start cheating or not sleep at home anymore. So he would treat her better than this. She got tired of him and this is how women who are tired behave. They kick you out. Unless it is your house. Then they move out! Baba has not slept in days. He came to see me and he said he has read all the psalms so that God can change her mind. He is acting poor in this case. Not poor in the sense of lacking money but poor in the sense of conceding power to the wife and begging her. He should have moved out. He has the money to do so or travelled abroad. He has a son in London. Just for a while. Not be this vulnerable that
the wife reduced him to tears and self pity. They have not had sex in six years. Not
because the man cannot do o but because she refused to do so. Baba should have seen the handwriting on the wall. So baba is no longer useful, Period!

Now if this administration appoints Baba as a minister today. The wife will rush back. She will do everything to regain his love. She will suddenly want to be first lady. The same man she has told to go to hell will now be treated like a gem not because of money but for status. He would have brought something exciting to the table. This is why I said it applies only to poor men. Stella Obasanjo was gone when her husband was imprisoned. When he was getting into office in 1999, she fought to get into the stadium.

GSW: This applies to only poor men though. The way God instituted marriage, need goes in only one direction. Not both. It is in this modern times that we have juggled things up and made a mess of it. She is the that will desire and live for his love. Not the other way round. I laugh so much when I read some things, and this is why we have Freezone. Socio-cultural differences and environmental differences are real and therefore our understanding of reality is never going to be lineal.

GSW: The Word of God changes us. There is nothing that reprograms us like the Scriptures. To be candid, and I mean brutally candid. There is more in every marriage, but the more is not going to come from outside. There is more to every life, the more is not going to come from outside. If I want to be richer or more successful, I won’t do so by robbing a bank or committing fraud. That will be looking for more outside of myself which will land me in full problem. To be better than you are, you have to dip your hands inside of yourself and bring out the more that you are looking for.

Once a wife tells the husband I am going abroad to study for two to three years and I am not taking you with me. The husband should just start shopping for another wife. I can give examples of over 40 cases I had gotten involved in this year alone. It is a convenient way of leaving a marriage. Just escape abroad and start afresh. I got involved in a case just two months ago. Husband was left in Nigeria for four years
with two boys. Wife said she was going abroad for masters. Wife called me to pray because she wanted to come home and pick the children to take them to the US but she was scared her husband won’t allow. She said she was told husband is now seeing another woman. I said let us meet. She dodged.

I insisted. When we met eventually she was pregnant. Six months pregnant and she was accusing hubby of cheating so that she can carry the children. I got another one last month. Two months old marriage. They got married on a Thursday. Wife’s visa came out the following Monday. Wife went to the UK. One month later, wife had moved in with another lover. Husband called me. I intervened. Wife said she does not want to come back to Nigeria. Husband should move on.

GSW: Marriage does not cure loneliness sir. For chaotic folks, they feel alive when they
do things spontaneously and without any form of order. Wake up in a room, spend the
day in a strange place and sleep on a strange bed every night. They are the first to line
up at a protest point the last you will see at a board meeting. They are found where you
can’t predict the outcome.

GSW: You get it. That is not an academic or research truth. That is a life truth. Marriage is not for everybody.

I have said this over and over again. Some people just won’t do well in it, either they got married as a virgin or as Street! They just don’t thrive in a controlled environment. Chaos is the comfort zone of some people. Marriage is not chaos. Some just can’t rest or settle down.

GSW: Let me say first that the Logic of this discussion and the emotion of this discussion are two separate things. The first we can all write about. The second however is the the universal reality and we can’t write it out. Ladies express themselves verbally without regards to how sensible what they are saying is or how silly it is. They will talk. Guys usually don’t want to sound silly, so they won’t even bother to talk even if they know the answer. If a couple breaks up or have marital challenges, almost all the time, the lady is the one talking about it to others. You sometimes have to drag the husbands or the guys before they open up. It is the same all over the world. I have cases now in which I have heard from the wife but the wife told
me the husband is unwilling to talk to anybody yet.

A couple gets married. Next Sunday they come for thanksgiving. Pastor says share your testimony. Who will grab the mic please? Couple has a baby. On naming ceremony day, pastor said couple should share their testimony, who will grab the mic please? Couple did house warming, Pastor says come and share testimony. Who will grab the mic please?
I was in church as a teen when my mum testified that my Daddy has been made a Vice Principal. My Daddy does not attend the church o and my mummy did not know what his classroom looked like. It is not about counting words and scientific logical paralysis. Men keep quiet for their wives, it is a recipe for peace at home. If you see a house where both of them are talking at the same time, arguments and fights will be plenty. A man can just say “Okay” and the matter is sorted. The woman will explain the O and the K and the A and the Y.

It is not having more words. In communication we say where two words will do, don’t use three. Wives expect their husbands to listen and then to get to the point when they reply. They however will explain what happened in an arguments from when they were single. How they made a vow to be celibate. How they didn’t defile themselves till they got married. Who their husband’s mother is and how she ruined the children. How they married him for love and how he is now jobless and what the devil has turned him to. When a lady comes for counselling, she can talk for one hour not minding that the person she is talking to may be tired or that there are others on the queue. The men will talk for five minutes. It got to
a point, I began to do counselling on my feet so that I won’t encourage time wasting. They didn’t come to hear what I have to say by the spirit. They came to make me hear what they have to say and yet the first is where the solution lies.

Academically speaking, both sexes are good communicators. In life, men leave the talk to the ladies and this is a global reality. As a teenager, you attract more babes when you dress well and look composed than when you are a chatter box. Girls don’t really like guys who talk too much. They will say he is not a man. He is childish.

My grandparents were the same. Grandma will talk. Grandpa will say Okay. Discussion closes. And they will be in the room for two hours, talking. One side does most of the talk. The other just agrees. However, if you see my grandpa disagree automatically there will be an argument because it means what my grandpa said is what will be done and my grandma will want to be heard before the gavel will fall hence the argument. I think this

GSW: Please sir, therapy is a requirement. You cannot manage it from outside. She or he must build that self esteem from within. You can support or help the person as much as you can but it is “self” esteem for the reason that it is up to self to work on it. A husband is supposed to have a wife that he can be himself with, not someone he is careful not to offend all the time. Small talk, is not small fight or small quarrel time. You should have small talk and you should be gist buddies. By husband I mean your partner.

The reason some men have strong bonds with some of their exes is as a result of how free and joyful they are in the company of that person. It is hard work having to pretend to be someone else in a marriage or relationship. Sooner or later you get tired of acting and you begin to do what you are comfortable with. You have only one life, you want to live it well and live it joyfully. I normally like being in fellowship and talking to people, not just preaching but mingling and just catching fun. I cannot do it again now because I am brother Gbenga. I miss it a lot but I get it. I understand that it is required for the position I have found myself. I will now get back to my office or car and the woman in my life who I am supposed to say I
love will now start giving me grief again?

Haba. I don’t want to be Brother Gbenga in the car with my wife. I want to be her friend and unwind with her and laugh and gist and share things I cannot share with others. This is how I believe it should be.

I am asking up to loosen up and not make life difficult for our partners. If you make life hard for him, he will make life hard for you back. Nobody has a monopoly of madness. Let your men breathe, let them see you as a place of comfort to come home to, let them be settled so well that they can come home and share their mistakes and even bad decisions with you. I say this to the men too please. It is just that this morning, my mind is reeling from that example sister Bisi gave and the woman’s reaction. It is unhealthy. Let me make you laugh. One lady wanted to make her boyfriend jealous, she began to play hanky panky games with her phone, she will be hiding it in a clumsy way so he will notice, she started talking about going on a date with another guy…So the guy started playing the same game back. Pretending to be talking to another lady and hiding his phone. She started crying and even accused him of cheating on her. He never asked her for her phone or checked it but she demanded his phone and began to go through his messages. I laughed when they shared this with me. If you can’t take war, don’t start war.

Tell that impulse it is not worth it. I got another case yesterday… This one is serious and I am still on it. This guy was given a female PA in the office. His wife protested. He applied that the PA be changed. The
PA was changed. He was given a male PA. The PA became his wife’s very close pal. He didn’t protest. The wife says He knows I cannot mess up with his PA but she was sure He can mess up with a female PA. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Husband became friends with the other PA that was sent to another department. Wife heard it and began to raise hell. Wife called me and I said Your husband is doing this deliberately. To make it stop, you have to stop being close to his PA. She said No. His PA tells me all his secrets and that is why he wants to take him away from me.

I begged her o, pleaded with her. She refused. Husband is going to Egypt for a conference, instead of taking the male PA he took the female, male PA ran to wife to protest. She called her husband. Husband said it is his desire and he will do what he likes. Wife says “I will poison you and watch you die if you go with her” Husband has gone with her now. Wife is crying at home. It is Brother Gbenga that all of them are troubling with this wahala.

My point is, we all don’t process things the same way. there is a feminine perception of reality and there is a masculine perception. We need both. Let your husband be a man and be comfortable with it. He should let you be a woman and be comfortable with it. You both should be each other’s best friends and be comfortable in each other’s space all the time. What do you want to gain by making the life of your own husband or wife difficult or trying to change them after marriage so that they lose themselves and their very nature? Maybe you should have married yourself or just remain single. A good partner rubs off
on his or partner in a subtle way that is measurable over time. Appreciate the differences you both bring to the table and please allow your partner breathe.

GSW: It is not respecting him that didn’t let you say it sis. It is because you think he will
take offence and he will not. That he said it to you means he is comfortable in your
space, you should encourage it.

GSW: God bless you sis. I especially appreciate your husband. one day I was talking to
him and he said “I know you bought a new car, why are you not driving it” I said “I gave it
to my wife” He said “Let them enjoy, they are the reason we are what we have become in
life”. That day, I went home happy and smiling. He echoed my exact sentiments. A man who values His family. Stressing such a man will just change him. He will start
running away from that which gives him joy.

I think some women respect their man enough not to say such sha (I know i do). Na
men go just open mouth gboowa and say what they saw that amazed them 😒😒

It is not respecting him that didn’t let you say it sis. It is because you think he will
take offence and he will not. That he said it to you means he is comfortable in your
space, you should encourage it.

🫣

GSW: See I was in a marriage where I had to code and think very well before speaking lest a good morning become an evil day. One day, I was driving and there was this lady taking pictures with her phone in front of a studio, she is beautiful, so I looked at her and my ex-wife started crying “Nothing a woman can do can satisfy you men, why are you looking at that girl” Me that I saw the girl but was not really looking at her like that, I was looking but not seeing, because my mind had gone to the thought “Why can’t someone take the picture for her, she is taking it all alone and it won’t be that fine etc” you see where my mind went but to her my mind went to wanting to be with the lady. It is not that hard. I have had months to think of those days again and how constraining that relationship was.

Walking on eggshells all the time because someone had low self esteem is not healthy for a man. It slants how you see and act. You start pretending and deluding yourself. It is not a healthy place to be. Allow your guys rest please. Let your husband and boyfriends enjoy being with you. Don’t turn everything into an emotional cesspool, please.

GSW: This is a feminine way of solving problem and it is not practicable. If the lady does not have the asset the man saw in the other lady, should she go and borrow assets to satisfy a man’s roving eyes? Every woman assumes she has the same thing other women has. That assumption always sounds funny to me. This is not exactly true. And that your husband or partner looked at another woman does not mean he wants to be with her. It means his eyes can see and the brain can interpret what he sees. That is not a crime.

The crime is if he follows up what he sees with any form of action that dishonours him or brings shame to you. If he says to you “The lady is shameless, see what she is wearing” Reply him by saying “Do not dignify shame by talking about it”. Nobody wants to associate with shame. Just look away. And if he says “That lady is beautiful”. It has nothing to do with you. It is most likely just a statement of fact. Reply
by saying “Yeah, she is” End of story. Don’t turn it to “What does she have that I don’t have”. It is not a competition, and yes she may have what you don’t have. Why find out? Just learn to allow your partner be free to have conversations with you instead of coding words because he is afraid you will take everything personal. That he didn’t say it does not mean he is not thinking it though. Be fun to be with and allow your man breathe. laugh over things and be a friend.

I have never seen a man who is threatened when his wife says “That guy is fine” Or that guy is rich. Guys don’t care about that. He is probably thinking “Yeah but he can’t make you scream or cream like I do” That’s a typical guy’s mindset. He doesn’t consider other guys a threat unless he sees the guy is making a move for you or you are making a move for the guy. It is always the ladies that are threatened by their guy looking at another person. Eyes are meant to see I beg.

GSW: They didn’t use either to survive. They went to hide. They hid in the upper room for 50 days. If the day of Pentecost didn’t come, they will still be in the upper room now.

GSW: Jesus can be dramatic. A teacher indeed. He said when you needed to work miracles I told you not to go with food and money but now that they want to arrest me go and get your money and weapons. He said even if they don’t have they should go and buy. Jesus knew all they will need this time is words and that words will fail them. This was why he led them to the garden to pray. They slept. When the hour came they all ran away.

GSW: That was a school of thought especially when Jesus told his disciples to go and get weapons and money. As if Baba wan start war

GSW: Judas didn’t go to Abraham’s bossom. Lazarus and the rich man didn’t go to the same place. Judas didn’t go to Abraham’s bossom. He went to hades. It was the saints in Abraham’s bossom that resurrected that day.

GSW: Jesus knew it was Judas but not all along. Judas was faithful to Jesus till that incident with the Alabaster box. It doesn’t take much to turn some people against you. There was a way a Holy Man or Woman ought to behave in our opinion. If they don’t behave that way, we feel they are fake. Jesus didn’t behave that way. That was the problem. I have a pastor friend who got divorced. On the day the divorce was announced in court, he told his fellowship members himself that he had gotten divorced. Many members left. You will think the remaining were okay with his new status and willing to continue with him.

Some of them stayed on as spies for his ex-wife. They report to her everything he is doing within the fellowship and his personal life. They were being loyal. She was their friend. Eventually he noticed that his ex-wife would behave somehow to him regarding the children etc. He kept wondering how she says some things etc. He later realized she was getting info. So he began to feed them wrong info. They in turn will tell this to the ex wife causing confusion among them. Now all of them don’t talk to each other again. Wife hates them. They dislike him but the man had peace. He is a pastor. Pastors are supposed to be straight like arrow and easy to read and predict. How can a pastor stoop so low?

GSW: He or she will be pretending everything is fine to your face but behind you tearing you down. So you can’t pray. The person go just fall off cliff. It is best to leave than stay and become saboteur.

GSW: You didn’t read what I wrote. Please go and read it. Judas was not Jesus’ enemy. Judas was a brother who acted as one to the face of Jesus only to bring him down. You don’t pray for such. Samson didn’t pray for Delilah.

GSW: All of them dipped their hands into the bowl to eat with him. Judas never believed in kingdom of Heaven, he joined Jesus because he believed they would do a physical insurrection and get rid of the romans. When Jesus didn’t do this, he decided Jesus was fake and sold him out. All of them were the same (Human). Human beings are the same from then till now. And they are all human. Jesus was neve
broke. You have to see the scriptures from neutral lens not any bias or preconceived mindset. All the disciples at the time had the tendency to betray Jesus. On the day He died, one said Show us the father. Another said I won’t believe until I see the hole in his hand. The disciples were not big on faith. They all slept off when Jesus was praying on that night. None of them understood the gravity of what is to come. None of them is holier than the other. Judas especially is not evil, he was caught in what most believers get caught in nowadays too. You are attending a fellowship, you believed and you were fervent. Then
something happened. A woman came to wash the feet of Jesus with her tears and hair. Holy Man. Son of God. This is Vanity. Why did Jesus allow such? They wasted the perfume on frivolities. Jesus was vain. He has lost his faith and became corrupt. The next thing to do was leave the fellowship. Once you stop believing, walk away. Judas should have left Jesus but most of us won’t leave. We begin to spread our distrust and opinions etc. We begin to try to pull the fellowship down. We didn’t build it o. We came to be a part of it. We lost our faith, we should leave. No! We must spoil it. Discontentment.

When Judas began to talk about the fellowship with disdain to others, the enemies approached him. Why don’t you help us nail him. Help us teach him a lesson. He is misleading people and God is unhappy with this. This was why Jesus didn’t pray for him. Peter never spoke to outsiders. He spoke to Jesus in a haste. Judas was spreading bile. When someone close to you start spreading bile about you, you don’t pray for them. You let them hang themselves with their rope. If you have a rope and there is a tree, it is inevitable. They hang. The only cure for discontentment in fellowship is to repent or leave. It is either you say I believe and stay within the fellowship and serve as you have always done or you leave. But staying to sabotage the fellowship is you hanging yourself. Na you go lose las las.

GSW: Judas knew he was the one and yet he still asked “Is it me, Lord”

GSW: You still have to be his friend and not make issues with accepting his friends and relatives. He is the head otherwise your relationship will be unhealthy. It is not the age. It is the attitude of the partners that determine if the relationship will work or not.

If you don’t have a man and you want one, ask another man in your circle of influence to help you out. Another man. Not brother Gbenga o. Your daddy, brother, cousin, friend, someone who can vouch for you, a male!
Men know men. But if he helps you get a man, you have to then be in the relationship and try to make it work. All this has been said many times. Making day to day decisions as a woman, a mother, a wife, a single woman, a girlfriend, a lover, a friend is also very critical. This is where I have found so many wanting. God, grant me the grace to accept with serenity the things I cannot change, the courage
to change what needs to be changed, and the ability to distinguish the one from the other. This should be our prayer especially to my sisters. Please when you know you can’t change something, stop battling with it especially as regarding your husband or the one you are with. It is either you walk away or you adapt to cope and become comfortable with it. When you know there are things you have to change, please change them.

Don’t make excuses. This is the key to sorting out your life and reality as a believer. Take this
instructions to heart. Accept what you cannot change from your partner. Change the things you can change in your own life to make the relationship better. Once you do this, you will see how easy your life will become. Whatever you can’t accept you walk away from.

1. He will not be the “Ideal guy”

2. You probably will still to work on you

3. He will have expectations and you have and you both must be able to meet each
   other’s expectations in both the long and the short term
4. There will be a lot of give and takes
5. If you say you don’t want him doing something and he does it and refuses to let it go
   (maybe he has a gambling, womanising, mummy’s boy etc and other habits) walk away
   if you can’t take it. Don’t wait and hope he will change. He wont
6. If you stay it means you have reevaluated and convinced yourself it is not a deal breaker after all and you can cope with it.

7. Once you have accepted to cope with it and stay stop grumbling about it and making
   a fuss.
8. Don’t waste time trying to force a round peg into a square hole. All these “I will do my own back, I can’t take it, I will give him war, I will show him pepper” that comes from not following the principles above will only make your marriage or relationship worse. I know this to be true. Please know it too. It is not you or your husband or lover that suffers from your bad decisions, it is the relationship that suffers. Always remember this. Let me write this emphatically. Don’t borrow each other money in a relationship or a marriage. Don’t borrow each other money! Don’t lend each other money! Don’t loan each other money! Don’t “what other English do I use now” each other money!
   It is ridiculous to hear wives ranting about the money their husband is owing them or
   husband lamenting about funds their wife is owing them. What you can give, please give. What you cannot give, please don’t give. Please!!!! Don’t fall for “I want to use it for a business” or “I want to put it in an investment”. Separate business from relationship. Separate the two. If both of you invest in a business and it fails. One will not be able to help the other stand. If you both do separate businesses, if one loses money the other can support. The bitterness in many relationships when it comes to money is too much. It is not love when you both put all your eggs in a basket. A man or woman whose only source of income is his or her spouse lacks substance. Begin to develop your network now and build good relationships that can support your vision independent of your spouse. That is how two beats 1000000. I will work hard, you now come and tell me about one Forex Trading or one investment that will give me 30% ROI. Because you are my girlfriend I will not carry my father’s money and give you or your younger brother. I cannot do it. I don’t like money. I like
   being wise. Once you begin to leverage on your love and emotion for each other to take
   money off each other, you have started killing the relationship.

Many of them don’t know. All they know is religion.

God changed His mind and returned to His original plan—do you understand?

In Exodus 3, God had a plan for the children of Israel. When they messed up, He decided to destroy them, but Moses pleaded with Him, and God repented. This means God went back to His original plan of establishing them as a nation.

In the book of Samuel, God repented again concerning His covenant with the house of Eli. He chose Samuel and said that Eli’s descendants would die young so that Samuel would remain unchallenged.

So, the concept of God repenting means that God says something, changes His mind about it, and then returns to His original intention.

Repentance pls, they still have their ties to the covenant

Okay! REPENT means to “turn 180°,” to return to the beginning, to go back to your foundation.

Jacob was a Jew, so his foundation was Abraham. When he repents, it’s not to the Law but to the Abrahamic covenant. Through this repentance, he discovers Christ and becomes a believer, because Abraham was made righteous by faith.

Brother Bode and Sister Kay, who were both born into Muslim homes, would have to return to Islam if they were told to repent to their beginning. Someone who worships idols would have to return to idol worship if told to repent to their beginning since they had no covenant with God from the start.

For such people, repentance means confessing, believing, and accepting Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior to be saved. Romans 10:9-10 says, “If you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.”

No matter how much you pray, just saying “Save me!” won’t save you. You can’t simply repent of your sins and be saved—salvation is not repentance alone. A sinner cannot repent. Jesus told the Jews to repent because they already had a covenant with Jehovah. Gentiles, pagans, and heathens did not have a covenant with Jehovah, so how could they repent? Repent of what? Where would they turn back to?

They were estranged from the covenant of promise, alienated from the commonwealth of Israel, having no hope and without God in the world (Ephesians 2:12). They cannot repent.

Repentance is not part of the gospel for sinners. A sinner—one who is not born again—has not heard the gospel. A transgressor is one who has heard the gospel and rejected it.

To repent means to turn away from wrongdoing to do right. A sinner cannot do this because if they could, they would never have needed redemption. You can’t just tell someone to change. Jesus didn’t have to die on the cross if repentance was enough.

Jesus said that repentance and remission of sins must be preached in His name to all nations, beginning in Jerusalem (Luke 24:47). Peter preached repentance to the children of Israel because they were God’s covenant people who had gone astray. He was telling them to turn back to Jehovah.

A sinner who is not born again cannot repent because, in God’s eyes, they are dead. What a sinner needs is new life; they need to be recreated in Christ Jesus. They must be born again, becoming a new person.

So when people say, “We are calling Nigeria to repentance,” it’s a mistake because Nigeria as a nation has never had a covenant with Jehovah.

Here is how God describes a sinner in Ephesians 2:1-3: dead in trespasses and sins, walking according to the course of this world, following the devil, fulfilling the desires of the flesh, and being by nature children of wrath.

Those not born again are still dead spiritually. Ephesians 2:12 says they are without Christ, alienated from the covenant of promise, having no hope and without God in the world.

Do you know what it means to be without God? They may use His name, but God calls them strangers from the covenant, aliens.

Hell is not the final destination for sinners (the unregenerate). Hell is a place of suffering, but eventually, it will be cast into the Lake of Fire, which is worse.

Ephesians 2:13 says that through Christ’s blood, those who were far off are now brought near. We are no longer far away or hopeless; we are now family with God.

So, is this knowledge worth more than the money spent? I don’t know, but I would have paid much more to make sure you understand it.

I love you all, family.

People forgive themselves of gossip. Forgive themselves of lying. Forgive themselves of abortion. But they won’t forgive themselves if they had “sex” outside of wedlock. Especially if they didn’t keep it secret and people know about it. It is always funny to me. You have sex in secret and people didn’t know. You are fine but once people know you are broken and depressed. Hypocrisy 2.0. Playing to the gallery. Ladies especially will come up with (it is women that the society judge, not the man).Wow!

The standard of God is not good enough for them. They have to put themselves under the standard and judgement of men. There is no sin that Jesus didn’t pay for. Even witches seems easier to forgive than those who had sex. One woman invited me to Abuja. Like Balak invited Balaam and after giving me Amala
and Abula to eat at a joint said “I brought you here because i want you to curse someone for me! She is sleeping with my husband. I want her to die of cancer” Haba! I said “How much is the amala you just bought me” She didnt say. I put my hand in my pocket and dropped 50k in her car. Make i no eat wetin go choke me.

I said forgive this woman. If it is true she slept with your husband, have a talk with him. And sort things
out. But do not go this route. You will be guilty before God if after you have been saved you act like this. The lady didn’t steal your husband, she borrowed him. And she returned him afterwards. Please sort this out with your hubby. Forgive. Heal.

Thank God she listened to me. God gave her a set of triplets the following year After 14 years of waiting. That day she came to know grace and it led to her healing. She had no fallopian tube yet because she forgave she conceived. She didn’t know the extramarital affair of her husband was a test to provoke the spirit of grace in her life. I didn’t know it too. But that day as she forgave and cried. I felt for her in My heart and prophesied over her. That was the turning point. The mindset of grace is important. The mindset of love is key. We should stop treating sin as sacred and God as mundane. Sin has been conquered. Sin is dead! Jesus died to take sin away. Remember this, this teaching is what makes many Christians very uncomfortable around me. Even some from GSWMI. Someone tacitly told me that I condone bad things. I encourage people to do whatever they want. I don’t deal with offenders harshly. I raise people who are sinful etc. All these accusations are not true.

I raise a Holy nation. A peculiar people. People conscious of God and the Holy Spirit. People who do not know sin. They have no knowledge of the fruit of tree of the knowledge of good and evil. They are righteous. Unblemished. Undefiled. They only know Christ and The Holy Spirit. They live the supernatural life. That is what made them far above principalities and power. That is their identity. You are of God, for greater is He that is in you than He that is in the world. You are of GOD!!!!!!! Born of the Word and the
Spirit. Always doing as led by the Spirit of God. He who is forgiven much, loves much. I know what i was forgiven of. I know the gutter and cesspool i was brought out of. It made it easy for me to forgive and not to take offence. This helps the Spirit of God to work in me effortlessly.

GSW: This is so true sir. There is no basis for it in the Bible. No scriptural reference. But since everyone of us want to prevent others from having it, we all decided to shroud it in one giant mystery like a scare crow in a maize farm. So that we can go there and pluck some but only others who have our knowledge can do the same. Then we scare others with boogeyman or ojuju vibes instead of teaching them the consequences and benefits of sex. The sex is spiritual mindset ended up putting many believers in bondage. When they have sex (outside of marriage) they lose their peace, their fellowship, their
walk with the Holy Spirit, their ability to hear from God! The devil capitalizes on this to make their lives miserable for months or years. I know a woman who was out of fellowship for 13 years for just one night spent with a would be “sugar daddy”

The Sugar daddy became a believer and moved on, the sister who was a believer now was out of fellowship for that long. No relationship, no friendship, living alone, serving a penance for failing God. While God was never angry with her. What she did was done against her own body and she has the right to forgive herself and move on but she chose to be wicked to herself thinking this is what would please God. She could have obtained grace and mercy but she chose pain and agony Which are not virtues that exist in heaven. The same way some catholic priests and members would punish themselves with scourges and pains and nail in their shoe for sinning. Claiming they are putting their bodies under. This does not please God at all. God is pleased when we do his will and fulfil his purpose in Christ. Whatever Jesus didn’t do, We should not do. If some of us got angry and beat people out of the temple, we will feel so terrible and say we have disappointed God. Jesus didn’t feel terrible for what he did that day in the
temple. That mindset is what we all must have. Without it we cannot rule and reign.

GSW: The Measure of faith! The article must not be left out. It is key. A thing. It means the writer is referring to a Noun. An object or a subject. Every believer received this thing when they became born again. What did we receive pls? That is what he is referring to. With it we all know we have faith. Without it we cannot say Jesus is Lord. What did we receive at salvation. Any takers?

Considering, Jesus Christ:
If I see JESUS in you 10% and you see Jesus in me 50% How much of him you reveal is how much you have grown in faith. It means I have used my measure of faith more effectively than you. I will also have more result. There is no need for me to be proud or be boastful. Christ will be revealed all by Himself in us for the world to see.

It is the Holy Spirit, he brings to your memory what he is telling me so that in case I get
distracted you will complete it and secondly to bear a witness in your heart that we are of one
spirit.

You’re not impatient o. Our ministering spirits stir us in the same direction. Have you seen
angels waving before? They always do so in unison. It is natural for us to speak from the same
source and speak the same topics.

You’re growing. When you receive the initial word, you can quietly probe the Spirit for more insight. That deeper revelation often contains the solution, and it’s very important. Many times, you’ll receive solving instructions straight from scripture—suddenly, you’ll just know what to do.

If the solution hasn’t come yet, simply deliver the prophecy as it is. Someone else in your team may receive the rest. This is similar to the system of the “caller and cantor” used by the old prophets in the Bible. But Jesus gave us a better model.

In corporate worship, one person can speak, and another can interpret. One might present a puzzle, and another may be given the solution. Just trust the Holy Spirit—He never leaves His word hanging halfway.

Remember that service where everyone kept speaking about a headache? That showed how consistent the Holy Spirit is in our lives. We all hear Him. Paul plants, Apollos waters.

Also, always remember: you must first postulate a problem before offering a solution—otherwise, the person for whom the miracle is meant might not realize that the word is for them. And faith comes by hearing.

We can interpret the book of Ezekiel either based on the events the prophet was witnessing or through the roles and significance of the beings involved, and how they can be relevant to us today.

Some time ago, a lady reached out to me. She was a Muslim, living in Abeokuta and working with the local government, earning a modest salary. She was the fifth wife in a polygamous home and had no children, while the other wives had several. They mocked and taunted her constantly. Eventually, they revealed to her that they were all witches and told her that unless she joined them, she would remain barren.

She didn’t want to become a witch, but from that moment on, she began to experience torment in her sleep. I asked her, “Would you give your life to Jesus?” She said yes. I led her to Christ. Then I told her to download a Bible on her phone, stand up, and read Ezekiel 10 aloud seven times. She obeyed.

I told her to go to sleep afterwards.

That night, she had a vision. The man clothed in linen from Ezekiel 10 entered the house, went around marking the rooms. He marked the foreheads of those who were witches and placed a coal of fire at the doorstep of this woman’s room. Then he left.

The next day, all the other wives went to their husband and insisted that he move the young wife (the new Christian) to a new house in Ewekoro. They chose to remain in the old house. The man was confused. Later, his mother — who was also a witch — came and told him the truth. She said that if he didn’t move out of that house with his new wife, he would end up burying his other wives and their children one by one over the next six months, and people would assume he was using them for money rituals.

He took his wife and moved to Ewekoro. I later met with them and prayed. He gave his life to Christ, and they started having children immediately. He still supports his other wives and their children financially, but he has not stepped foot into the former house since 2015.

A few weeks ago during our prophetic service, I invoked the man in linen again before the service began. I sent him (in the spirit) into homes, families, and situations that needed divine intervention. Some of us here can testify to the powerful outcomes that followed that service.

I apply scripture only as led by the Holy Spirit. I don’t touch verses He hasn’t directed me to, because when He leads and you follow, the power in that scripture is activated. That’s how application works — and it applies to every verse in the Bible.

Let us also remember the testimony of the man who was healed from an incurable lung disease. He was reading from the book of Psalms and teaching others when it happened. Ministering spirits are always at work, watching over God’s Word to perform it.

What we need most is intimacy with the Holy Spirit. He will unlock these mysteries to us — every time we ask.

GSW: Dejavu? It usually means you have seen the place and forgotten about it until you saw it
again or seen yourself at the place before.

That is how we do it. Watching over our children and wards by the Spirit. Human eye cannot do it. Na by the Spirit. I know all my children’s moves (I mean all) by the Spirit.

GSW: Not true. He had no spiritual authority to do such. He was a buttie king. David was more spiritually aware than him. It was people that built Solomon’s edifices. The Bible described how the Labor camps of his days operated and Jeroboam was the minister for labor.

GSW: Yes please. Even the temple in Jerusalem. The one that was burnt down by Nebuchadnezzar. The location it was built was picked based on the sighting of a demon.

This is also applicable to all spiritualist and occultic. They locate their churches to face a certain angle, location or close to a certain natural element. Based on the leading of the board.

The seven altars Balaam raised. The sacrifices he made, what were they? How did he choose his locations? Balaam didn’t have the ouija board. But he was a sorcerer. The ouija board is a demonic board created to consult demons and other evil spirits like the Samjays. The tips of the arrow are six. The center of the arrow is the seventh. Often time when diviners want to consult, they set up the board and then they burn incenses and then begin to make their consultation. They ask questions of the board and the board begin to move until it gives them answers to the questions they were asking. The seven altars raised by Ballam was the Basis for the ouija board and the Star of David. It was how he selected where to place his altars and burn the sacrifices he wanted to burn. You will notice that it was the sacrifice that gave him a clue about what to do to get Israel accursed.

“God is not a man, that He should lie,

Nor a son of man, that He should repent.

Has He said, and will He not do?
Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good?
Behold, I have received a command to bless;
He has blessed, and I cannot reverse it.

This was how Balaam realized the only way to afflict the Israelites is to tempt them to sin or do anything untoward so that God can be separated from them. It was where he advised Balak to send prostitutes to the camp of the Israelites and this resulted in a plague breaking out. It is also how all spiritualist and occultic churches locate where to build their churches and centers all over the world. Thank you for coming to my morning talk.

The ouija board has symbols, alphabets and markings that can be used for divination purposes. The star of David is just a symbol on the Israeli flag.

GSW: Dejavu? It usually means you have seen the place and forgotten about it until you saw it
again or seen yourself at the place before.

GSW: I know this principle very well. Please take time to read the books of Habakkuk and Zechariah. Read them quietly and meditatively. A vision is coming to you. Keep reading until you fall asleep. It’s likely a Hazon (open) vision, so it may come just before you fall asleep or in a cloud-like encounter.

As for me, Brother Gbenga, when I want something, I find a picture of it and place it around me. Then I go to sleep thinking about it — and only that. The next thing I do is begin to talk about it and act like it’s already mine. And then — boom — it happens just like that.

My brother, sister, and mum all know this about me. Sometimes, they even ask me to “dream for them” — because they know how it works with me. See the example I gave above. That’s how to lambano (take hold of) visions.

GSW: The picture is a trigger sir, bringing to mind what you saw earlier. It is important that you
keep the word of your confession. Insist that the counsel of God over Nigeria will come to
pass. You’re a watchman over this sir.

GSW: Times and seasons are real in the realm of the spirit as they are in our realm. What we ought to do at a particular season may change based on our response. There are many paths to the future, you have taken one and it has led you here. A greater tomorrow is coming forth.

GSW: Ask the Holy Spirit for clarity! Sometimes the vision will be reconstructed while you are
sleeping during the day sometime later or it will come to you again in the same manner it came.

GSW: The moment you hear the name of a location, begin to intercede for that place immediately. When you later see the location in a vision, you’ll often find yourself acting out the very things you had prayed about during your intercession.

If you then come across a picture of that location online, give glory to God — it’s a sign that your prayers have been answered.

Pay close attention to the instructions you receive while praying. Those instructions are key. They will show you exactly what next step to take. Please take note of this.

GSW: Tell the person what you have seen and encourage the person to see what you have seen.
Seeing is important in becoming for many

When you come out of the vision, try very hard to bring what you have seen back to
your imagination.
1.deliberate and make it real. This means you will see it twice
2.Then appropriate it by claiming you have become what you have seen
3.Take the character of what you have seen into your everyday life
4.Act like what you have seen, speak like it and insist on it.