Have you ever considered this?
The current monarchical head of England is a King and He has a Queen.
King Charles and Queen Camilla

The last monarchical head of England was a Queen but her husband was not a King.
He was a Duke.

Why?

The blood must lead the nation and if the blood is in the female, she is the head of the nation while she is also the wife of her own husband.

You cannot use marriage to take the crown from her.

In the same vein, if God called your wife into ministry, you are not the one God has called into ministry
You don’t become Daddy GO because God called your wife into ministry.

You are her husband in the context of marriage but you are not the Head of her ministry because you married her.
If you choose to be a part of her ministry, you can serve and support her in any capacity you choose apart from acting as if your marital position gave you the right to become the Head of the ministry God has given to her.

Men get this easily and in most cases you see them steer clear of the limelight when their wife is the one in a position of power.

When people elect a woman as governor or deputy governor or Senator or local government chairmen, you don’t see the husband of such a woman occupying the office of the first man or office of the husband of the First Lady.

The issue has always been with women who simply won’t separate their wifely duty from their husband’s achievements or calling.

A man is called to lead a church, wife wants to be “Mummy GO” or pastor’s wife. She does not want to serve as a member of the church whose duty is to support her husband at home and raise the children.
Especially in today’s mom and pop Pentecostal churches.
“His calling is OUR calling but my calling is my calling” is the female’s position and that position is very wrong!

The Baptist, Anglican, Catholic, Methodist, African and other orthodox denominations do not have this issue.
They have structures that help to keep sanity in the rank and file of the church

The Pentecostal churches have to correct this anomaly.
Many of their pastor’s spouses are not qualified to lead people and yet they give them offices simply because of their husband’s position.

I don’t know Joyce Mayer’s husband; I don’t know Paula White’s husband, I don’t know Mama Agbala Daniel’s husband, I don’t know Esther Ajayi’s husband.
Why do I know Pastor Iluyomade’s wife?
(As an example).
She is his wife and her actions should have no bearing on her husband’s calling and ministry.
She will not give account on the day of judgement for her husband’s ministry
She is his wife and the mother of his children.
And yet….
We see the effect of her action on her husband’s ministry and how it led them out of their position of influence in RCCG in the last few years.

If you are a pastor’s wife, you are his wife.
If you are a pastor’s husband, you are her husband.
There is no office or position of influence/leadership for you in the church based on who you got married to.

This does not mean you cannot become a pastor in your own right by going through the process and obtaining the right training but it is not a position you should get simply by warming his or her bed.

So many ministries have been ruined because those who didn’t know receive divine instructions from God and to whom the Word did not come are taking up positions of authority and influence in the church by the flesh.
They say the two had become one flesh(this is only true within the context of marriage).

Outside of marriage, the one God has called must lead and the sheep of the pasture God has given him, including his wife must follow.

Husband died and wife becomes Head of Ministry or Bishop of Ministry is not the way to go.
That we see these lopsided arrangements all around us does not make them godly or right.

The calling God is not a joke and those who dare to make a joke of it usually go the way of Jeroboam over the course of time.

Please remember this.

-GSW-