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Pretending You Are Happy for Everyone
A colleague you trained gets promoted before you do. You smile, hug them, and say, “I’m so happy for you,” while somewhere deep inside, a tiny committee has begun reviewing the evidence. We’ve made being happy for other people into something we’re supposed to do. Good friends celebrate, good siblings
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
Feeling Ashamed of Being Jealous
The second habit makes jealousy even harder to deal with: we feel ashamed of feeling it. We’ve been taught that jealousy says something ugly about us. If you envy the coursemate who keeps getting As, the friend who always seems to afford another holiday, or the sibling who appears to
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
Confronting The Double Standard
Have you ever heard a man tell a woman, “You need to step up and be a mother to my children”? Probably not. And if you did hear it, people would probably look at him like he had completely lost his mind. Imagine a man having several children with different
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
How To Think Clearly
Thinking clearly is an art. It’s also a skill. To stay on the right side of thought, I need to recognise the dangerous habits that can undermine or destroy my cognitive clarity. You can have a brilliant mind and still think badly. You can read hundreds of books and still
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
Why Many Men Are Single
Most women want to get married at least once in their lives. This isn’t the case for men. In most cases, the reason a man gets married isn’t out of love, but for some other reason. What that reason is or might be, and why a man often cannot or
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
Employing your Boss
Employing your Boss! This has been my experience with every driver I have ever employed. Somehow, before they got the car keys, they were humble and contrite, making many promises about how they would conduct themselves and make sure my life is easier because they are now behind the wheel
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo