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The Debt of Waiting for Your Feelings to Agree
You can know that a relationship needs to end, that a job isn’t right, or that a decision has to be made and still feel unable to act on what you know. The missing ingredient seems to be readiness, so you wait for it. You tell yourself you’ll act when
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
The Debt of Making Meaning From Everything
We like to believe every painful experience contains a lesson. After something goes wrong, we often return to it looking for the explanation that will make the experience feel worthwhile. Finding meaning is one of the ways people make sense of difficult experiences. Meaning-making has been linked to how well
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
The Debt of Leaving the Door Open
This is one of the hardest debts to recognise because it can look like hope. You leave room for the person who hurt you, keep thinking about the career you abandoned, or still imagine the apology that might come. You tell yourself that circumstances could change. Hope can keep you
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
Leadership is not dictatorship.
Ploughing yourself forward through everyone else without stopping to consider their opinions or feelings is not masculinity. It’s not leadership. It’s not “being a man.” It’s just being a socially unaware neanderthal. Leadership is servitude. Not subordination. Not being below others, but instead, standing behind them to support. Beside them
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
Calling Jealousy “Motivation”
This one gets a much better publicist. Jealousy is ugly, while ambition is admirable, so we rename jealousy. You start getting invited to rooms you have been trying to enter for years, and suddenly every networking event feels like a referendum on your own career. A business takes
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo -
Treating Another Person’s Success as Evidence of Your Failure
Jealousy gets worse when you start thinking someone else’s success leaves less for you. Someone gets the promotion, and you feel like you lost. Someone buys the house, and you feel behind. Someone you know publishes a book, and suddenly the manuscript sitting untouched on your laptop feels like evidence
August 22, 2026 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo