Dear Brother Gbenga,
I write this to you with a very heavy heart. I couldn’t sleep all night despite doing everything I could to get some rest. I eventually decided to write to you.
It is my musing throughout the night
I hope when you read it, you will find it worthy to share on your platforms
I am 88 years old, walking on Mount Pisgah already, but I do not fail to read gbengawemimo.com every day as the messages and stories there delight my heart
Please accept my writing as the concern of a father, a minister of the gospel for 56 years, and a keen observer of society at large, based on my discipline in the University
Please keep up the good work, sir.

Hating The Truth

This is how best one can characterize today’s society.
A society so good at mathematics and yet so dull at drawing logical conclusions.
Once, parents raised their sons to be husbands and their daughters to be wives
Today, we raise both our males and females to be independent
We clap ourselves on the back for doing such a good job of it
We traded family values for individual achievements
A trained husband must marry a trained wife to produce a trained family
A trained individual may or may not get married if marriage would stand in the way of individual achievements
If marriage fits into the overall plan, all well and good; if it does not, so be it.
We copied the West without engaging our brains
Now we are experiencing the same problems the West is dealing with, and like them, we have no solution\
We borrowed their religion and culture, and we totally forgot that we had solved many of the issues their culture brought to us as problems.
If anybody comes to tell us the truth as it is, we all pick up stones and crucify the person
A pastor recently stated truthfully and factually that Nigerian Doctors who attend federal universities were trained with less than five hundred thousand Naira.
This is a verifiable fact, but all sorts of people jumped on the viral video to disprove something that is pure truth.
They didn’t come with any evidence, they came with lies and insults
Another man gave ladies who are in their late thirties and forties sound counsel regarding their future
The man said, “Single men are no longer available to get married to at this age.”
If you can have a child at this age, go ahead
If you have a suitor who has been divorced or widowed, don’t hesitate to marry such
The man also said, “If you don’t like the offer of being a single mother, take the offer of being a second wife or forget about getting married or having children.”
The comments of all sorts of people on the man’s submission were funny to read
Ladies especially descended on the man’s comment and labelled him an enabler of men who desire to marry more than one wife
They said he was encouraging women to scatter the happy homes of other women
A married man in a happy home will never consider a second wife
A man considering a second wife is not in a happy marriage
A happily married man does not consider having a side chick
A happily married woman does not consider having extramarital affairs
If you see a man or woman who is married in an extramarital affair, such a person is not happy
This unhappiness may have nothing to do with the partner or the partner’s behaviour
Sometimes, a person is like the ocean or fire that never knows how to be satisfied or how to say enough
Of course, the wife of the man in an extramarital affair would claim she was doing everything in her power to keep her husband happy, and the man whose wife is in an extramarital affair would claim the same thing
A happy husband or wife does not cheat
He or she does not have a reason to
The other partner cannot tell us that his or her partner is happy
It is the person “cheating” that understands the source of his or her discontentment and how he or she has decided to assuage it through their actions
A well-fed dog does not fight with a cat over food, but where there is scarcity, there will surely be a tussle
Somebody announced based on facts on the ground that he is sure a certain person will remain in his position till a certain time, those who disagreed offered no facts or reason; they just resorted to insults and unfounded allegations
Such is the state of the world we live in now
People living in a lie and proudly living in it without any recourse for truth
People who do not believe in God suddenly quote religion when they want to support their unwholesome belief systems.

A popular philosopher in addressing the moral and cultural dilemma being battled by the West at this time said, “They found a fence, and without asking why it was erected or for what purpose it existed, they removed it, and now they are crying that they are being invaded by all sorts of evil. They could have chosen the path of wisdom by acknowledging that they were wrong and replacing the fence, but no. The West does not accept its mistakes. It counts it as part of evolution and makes laws around fault lines to protect it and keep themselves in a bind.”
We should learn to do better than the West, otherwise, we are heading to the same pitfall that they currently find themselves in
Are we blind to the developments regarding LGBTQ and other alphabets emerging in that society?
Won’t we learn from their madness and correct our course?
The reason many of them are mentally ill is that the pillars of society have been completely removed
The family is gone, marriage is gone. Human interaction is gone, love is gone, marriage is gone. Humanity is gone.
All they have now are their inventions, technologies, and scientific breakthroughs
You are a woman, alone and depressed, therefore, you explore changing your sex so that you can see if that will make you happier in life
Where does the madness end?

The simple solution would be to call a meeting as a society and discuss how to return to the values that made life worth living before this madness became the norm
Man is a social animal
We need each other more than gadgets
Men need women, and vice versa
Having a family is more important than having a career. Both can give you fulfilment in life, but only one can outlive you.
We must be taught how to appreciate and embrace the truth again
We must learn how to follow the logic of the mathematical equation without resorting to unhealthy expectations
Our ladies must learn how to make the right choices in their twenties, without all the lies that we tell ourselves nowadays which leads to time-wasting and a bucketload of regrets
A wife who has a husband and children is better off than a wife who has only a husband
A wife who has only a husband is better off than a woman who has only children
A woman who has children or a child (adopted or biological) is better off than a woman who has only her career
This same scenario applies to all husbands and men, too
A living dog is always better than a dead lion
Isolation or being alone often leads to mental illness, Man was not created to be alone!
The divorced should not be treated like pariahs, they must be encouraged to remarry
The widowed, too, unless they are elderly!
They must be encouraged to remarry
Our children must be raised in a loving community of family and relatives, as it was before the white people came
We must pick the best that Western civilization had to offer and refuse to follow them into the ditch

I am praying for every generation that they will know the Lord and not the law
It seems to me that today’s believers are more conscious of selfish rules and regulations than of the knowledge of Christ
They would rather have sex than get married
They would rather abort than have children
They would rather get a divorce than forgive wrongs or adjust to accommodate their partner’s needs
We have become very close-minded and selfish as a people
There was a time when we did everything to ensure that everyone around us is placed in a home as a society, now those who are married mock those who are not
We used to help raise the children of single mothers when I was young
My father will take us and the male children of some single mothers in our community to the farm together so that the boys can learn how to be men
I hope that by writing this letter to you, I have done a bit to assuage my conscience of its heaviness.

Reverend Ayo Omidiji

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