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The Man Who Chose to Be Misunderstood
In July 1942, a Jewish doctor named Nathan Wallach knocked on the door of a Polish ironworker in the town of Lesko. Wallach and his wife, Jafa, were about to
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Single Eyes
Dear Oyinye, There are nights when I look at you, and I cannot tell if I am looking at home or at a beautiful place I am only passing through.
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6 Truths You’ll Learn After Divorce
There’s nothing easy about divorce. It’s a life-altering decision. One that announces the failure of something you hoped, once upon a time, would last until “death do us part.”
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Dear Ladies
Dear Ladies, Every single one of these qualities — kindness, emotional stability, compatibility, voice, boundaries, warmth, independence, sends the same signal to a man’s nervous system… you are safe
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Have Your Own Life
We’re told men want to feel needed. That they want to be the hero, the provider, the one who rescues you. And sure, some men want that. But the research
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Be a Home!
In 1989, Buss surveyed over 10,000 people across 37 cultures. That’s not a typo. Ten thousand. Thirty-seven cultures. And across every single one, kindness and understanding ranked at the
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Boundaries Make Men Feel Safe
Instead of fighting a man for not having boundaries, work on yourself and have boundaries. Let your boundaries influence his own and make sure your boundaries are true and resolute
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Your Voice Is A Factor
A 2025 study in the British Journal of Psychology separated attraction into four channels: face, voice, body motion, and body odor. They had 61 people provide samples of each, and
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Compatibility Is Key
A 2024 study looked at four major categories of mate preferences: physicality, compassion, competence, and compatibility. They had people choose which mattered most in both short-term and long-term contexts.
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Why Men Prefer Emotionally Stable Women
We all know the stereotype… men want women who are drama-free. “No crazy chicks,” right? But that’s not what the research shows. It’s deeper than that. A 2018 study