Leadership is not dictatorship.
Ploughing yourself forward through everyone else without stopping to consider their opinions or feelings is not masculinity. It’s not leadership. It’s not “being a man.” It’s just being a socially
Continue readingCalling Jealousy “Motivation”
This one gets a much better publicist. Jealousy is ugly, while ambition is admirable, so we rename jealousy. You start getting invited to rooms you have been trying
Continue readingTreating Another Person’s Success as Evidence of Your Failure
Jealousy gets worse when you start thinking someone else’s success leaves less for you. Someone gets the promotion, and you feel like you lost. Someone buys the house, and you
Continue readingPretending You Are Happy for Everyone
A colleague you trained gets promoted before you do. You smile, hug them, and say, “I’m so happy for you,” while somewhere deep inside, a tiny committee has begun reviewing
Continue readingFeeling Ashamed of Being Jealous
The second habit makes jealousy even harder to deal with: we feel ashamed of feeling it. We’ve been taught that jealousy says something ugly about us. If you envy the
Continue readingConfronting The Double Standard
Have you ever heard a man tell a woman, “You need to step up and be a mother to my children”? Probably not. And if you did hear it, people
Continue readingHow To Think Clearly
Thinking clearly is an art. It’s also a skill. To stay on the right side of thought, I need to recognise the dangerous habits that can undermine or destroy my
Continue readingWhy Many Men Are Single
Most women want to get married at least once in their lives. This isn’t the case for men. In most cases, the reason a man gets married isn’t out of
Continue readingEmploying your Boss
Employing your Boss! This has been my experience with every driver I have ever employed. Somehow, before they got the car keys, they were humble and contrite, making many promises
Continue readingThe Art Of Persuasion
I don’t remember the last time I changed anyone’s mind with facts. If your goal is to persuade or influence. At the office, at home, or in that argument. Stop
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