I have seen a woman, a feminist, argue that prostitution is the most powerful profession in the world because it gives women the power to control men through their impulses and weaknesses.

This professor, while giving her lecture, declared that women can do excellently well in “masculine” dominated fields like carpentry, masonry, lumberjack, haulage, bricklaying, auto repair, and so many others, but that men cannot make good prostitutes because women wouldn’t patronize them the way men patronize women.

She said a lot.

She said it at a public lecture in the United States of America

Everybody who sat at that lecture knew she was saying a pile of rubbish, but nobody corrected or challenged her.

When I was younger, I would have challenged her

I would have raised serious objections to her unproven assertion that prostitution empowers women, with facts and figures from the data collected from several prostitutes from all over the world whose lives had been destroyed by prostitution

I would point her to the fact that prostitutes like Delilah, one of the examples she gave during her speech, were one in a million, and they usually act on the instructions of their pimps, who are usually men, if they would make any form of tangible profit in the area of manipulating men, as she theorized.

Delilah didn’t just wake up and decide to go after Samson in a bid to become a heroine.

She was hired by men, leaders of the land of Philistine, who noticed that Samson already had a soft spot for her.

She didn’t seduce Samson into giving up his secret; she exploited Samson’s love for her.

Of course, there have been other women in history who used the instrument of their femininity to bring kings to a keel and gain serious advantage for rivals in the field of war and business through espionage.

In every case, the man first surrendered his feelings before the woman could take advantage of him.

In cases where the man felt nothing for the woman, she soon realized all her feminine wiles were useless to him because he had no interest in her whatsoever.

It was not prostitution that gave her power over men; it was the feelings of the man for her that she exploited.

All the men at the lecture that day didn’t say a word, and neither did I, for only one reason; the lecture was a rage bait.

This particular feminist professor of psychology prepared this lecture with only one purpose in mind; she knew everything she wrote and made us sit through for about two hours was lies and insulting to our intelligence, and as such, she expected us to react.

It was that reaction that would have justified her claims that men hated women and wanted to stifle women and wouldn’t let a woman speak freely without trying to put her down in public or subject her words to a public outcry, call her a witch, and burn her at the stake.

It was in preparation for that reaction that she invited the media and social media influencers who would have ignored the hogwash of a lecture she presented and made a victim out of her in order to prove her point.

She, however, didn’t get the reaction she expected.

The men laughed and clapped and cheered when she was done.

They laughed in jest, cheered in mockery, and clapped in sarcasm

It was not the first time she had pulled such a stunt; the previous time, when she pulled it, she was a student contesting for the position of the president of the student body against two men, and she played the card so well that public sympathy went her way and she won the election.

Not because she was the best or better candidate, but because she was a woman and she played the victim card.

If there was one thing almost every female had mastered since the days of Eve, it was how to provoke men and then play the victim when the provocation had yielded the desired result.

I remember this story this morning as I contemplated how to console a brother and a friend whose wife cheated on him and got caught cheating.

The brother had several options, and the least desirable of them, in my opinion, was taking her back.

I have dealt with several cases of infidelity in marriage, and I have come to the conclusion that women handle catching their husbands cheating far better than they handle being the ones caught cheating.

If a woman catches her husband cheating, she has the moral high ground and could be a “woman” in her full glory by telling the story to his parents, her parents, her pastor, her friends, his friends, the children and watching him grovel and beg until she forgives him and she is pronounced a good wife forever in the eyes of all and sundry.

If, however, she was the one who caught cheating, she would not want him doing what wives would typically do to their cheating husbands to her.

She does not want him crying to all her relatives and his relatives, church leaders and elders, friends and family, and the children telling the story of how she cheated and all the sacrifices he made for her, which she betrayed.

She would prefer that he swallowed it whole and forget all about it; after all, he was to blame for her cheating. Typically, she wouldn’t have cheated if he had not given her cause to.

She was a well-raised lady who never envisaged finding herself in the predicament he placed her in, which made her cheat.

She had also prepared her mind to walk away from the marriage from the moment she cheated on him, but he was the one who convinced her to stay in the marriage; therefore, he must abide by her terms and conditions.

She would not be in the marriage and be constantly reminded of the thing she did wrong because that would be psychological and emotional abuse.

Forgiving a cheating wife is a lot

While some marriages survive it and grow stronger after it, the majority of marriages do not survive it.

Even when the man had forgiven and forgotten all about it, the woman would prefer to leave him and be alone or start over with someone else who would not have the moral high ground over her in the union.

Her reaction to the husband after he had caught her cheating would naturally be so cold that he would eventually get the message and leave her be.

At the moment, this brother’s wife is rage-baiting him. He was the one who caught her cheating, but as a result of catching her, he is the one suffering in silence.

All he wanted was for things to go back to normal, so that they could have a conversation and live as they had always lived in unity and love.

The more he tried this with his wife, the more defensive his wife became.

If she did something wrong and he points it out, she would say, “This is just an excuse for you to get back at me for cheating on you.”

If he sees something nice and buys it for her, she will say, “I hope you are not thinking that I cheated on you because of material things, because I am not sure you can afford this gift you have bought for me.”

He was dealing and coping silently with the hurt from her infidelity, and he was still being roasted daily by the woman who cheated on him because he opted to take her back and rebuild their marriage rather than scatter the marriage due to her infidelity.

I know both the husband and the wife will read this.

To the wife, I am saying, “Stop rage-baiting your husband, he is a good man who sincerely loves you and would like you guys to move on from what had happened.

Please forgive yourself and drop your spikes.

You are not a porcupine!

Stop acting like one

You have been forgiven, embrace this grace with gratitude.”

To the Husband, I am saying, “Keep quiet, sir. For the next six months, just watch your wife and do the best you can do every day while observing and loving her.

You cannot get the version of her before she cheated back, but you can study this new version in silence until

You gain her confidence again, and she feels safe in your love.

A traitor is never at ease in the company of the person he betrayed for a long time. However, time heals all wounds, and it is possible for Judas to once again break bread with Jesus when he can see that he has been truly forgiven.

As for the pain you still feel in your heart, it will eventually become numb and fade, but you must give it time.

The path you choose is the best; however, it comes with some unique challenges.

Trust the Lord in the place of prayer.

It will get better.

PS: Rage Baiting is still baiting. It requires its target audience to bite. Whether it is online or offline.

The one who bites is always the fool. Please don’t bite

It is the duty of the fisherman to provide a wormed hook and throw it in the river, but he cannot force a fish to bite; as long as the fish ignores, the fish is safe.

When the fish bites, it will find itself at the mercy of the fisherman. This is not a good place to be.

Always remember this

–GSW–