He said: Brother Gbenga, I am genuinely confused.

I got married to this very toxic woman, who physically, verbally, and mentally assaulted me at will throughout our three years of marriage.

About the time the marriage clocked three, I met this lady who works with a marketing company. The lady would give me research works to transcribe and analyze for a fee

This work was bringing me an extra source of income steadily. One day, my wife got on my phone, saw that I had been exchanging work messages with this woman, and she called her on the phone.

When this lady picked up, my wife went off on her without any restraint. She called her names and insulted her mercilessly.

The next day, my wife sent an email to the lady’s office accusing her of being a husband snatcher

I begged this lady when I got to know, I apologized profusely, and I even wrote a letter to her manager explaining who my wife was and how she usually behaved. I attached pictures of past injuries and police reports and promised that I would keep my private matters to myself going forward.

The matter died down.

I became better at keeping my private matters to myself and started pleasing my wife more so that she would not be unnecessarily provoked.

A few weeks after this time, this lady started coming on to me very strongly.

We got close and eventually became lovers.

I started cheating on a woman who could beat the two of us to death!

This lady encouraged me to move out of the house, get a lawyer, and file for divorce.

She stayed with me for three years until the divorce became final.

All the while, as I was going through the process, my expectations and hopes were hinged on marrying this lady who is the love of my life

Divorce became final!

I was free.

This lady took me to dinner and told me she is not interested in marrying me or being my lover anymore

She just dated me so that I could grow some spine and be encouraged to divorce my ex-wife

She said I should make better choices in women going forward, and ended our relationship

I am so lonely right now, and I miss her so much

She has not been picking up my calls or responding to my messages

Please, sir, what should I do?

PS: She used him to wreak her vengeance on his ex-wife. She has zero feelings for him. She played him like a violin.

What do I do?

As your lesson teacher said, make a better choice in women and grow some spine.