He: Good evening, I am reaching out to thank you for checking up on me in the early weeks of October
My brother told me you called him too
Thank you so much
There was nothing wrong with me
I realized out of the blue that I was trying to force something that I should not because I had an idealistic mindset about how I wanted things to be laid before me.
It is unusual for me to struggle to get anything done
The struggle was questioning my reality
That has never happened for ages
It will not stop if I persisted
So that means I was trying to force something that should not be
So I took time out to sort out my misguided determination to marry you
The response should be yes if indeed it was meant to be
I have concluded it was not meant to be
I realized then that I had a decision to make as regarding my communication with you
The right thing will be to leave you be so you can move on with your life
I apologise for the abrupt cut off in communication
I am very sorry
You can please go ahead and block me as you have done before

She: I am happy you responded to my message.
You know that I never said I don’t like you or that I don’t want to marry you.
I said if you want to marry me and you are serious about it, you should come to my church and speak to my pastor.
I cannot make such a decision by myself.
Secondly, I know you paid my rent last year and I am grateful for it. The rent will be due in May and I am really hopeful you can be of assistance to me in anyway you can.
I am working hard to put the rent together but it would really go a long way if you can support me with it.
I had told myself the one paid last year would be my last rent before I get married.
I hope this one will be it.
Secondly, my phone is acting up and I really wish you would buy me another one quickly.
Remember that you were the one who asked me what I wanted during our last meeting.
Please let me reiterate that if you don’t come to talk to my pastor as I asked, I will not marry you because I don’t own myself and submitting to my pastor will convince me that you really meant what you said about marrying me.

Him: I will rather talk to your parents, that is what is truly required. Submitting to a pastor is not my thing.

She: Okay. I think it is best to say No to the marriage proposal and let us just remain friends.
Submission to my pastor is sacrosanct.
If you can’t do that, I can’t honestly marry you.

Him: Good morning, I woke up the your request in my heart.
The honourable thing to do will be to decline the offer to help you sort out this particular challenge and other challenges going forward.
Not for lack of means but because I believe it is the right thing to do for the both of us.
For me because I am not your friend, I don’t want to be and I don’t feel comfortable being your friend
For you because you are not my lover, you don’t want to be and you don’t feel comfortable being my lover.
The two of us shouldn’t then engage in activities that will make one feel he or she is being taken advantage of
I cannot explain or justify your request to me because I don’t know the basis on which to place it.
Is it charity?
Is it gift to a friend (we are not friends)
Is it a present for my girlfriend (you are not my girlfriend)
Something for my betrothed? You are not my betrothed.
For the same reason you cannot lie down comfortably beside me on the same bed while fully clothed, you should not be comfortable asking me for money or gifts.
(Now, you did mention that I was the one who asked you what you wanted the last time we saw each other and this is true.
That last time, I was hopeful that I could get something in return (not sex pls or anything that basic) but maybe a bit of attention and some serious consideration of my proposal to you which you had since graciously declined.
So that promise is now a dud cheque)
This is so neither of us begin to feel one is taking advantage of the other.
Thank you