In 2010, a friend was getting married. Those of us who attended the same university with him attended.
The engagement was on Friday evening, while the main wedding was on Saturday.
We got to the engagement, and the mother of the bride began to berate her husband in front of everybody because his tailor failed to deliver their matching attire on time for the occasion.
The husband’s younger sister was fuming while this went on; everybody told the mother of the bride to calm down and let the event continue in peace.
This woman, however, was very angry and wouldn’t keep quiet.
Suddenly, the husband’s younger sister screamed.
“You want the devil to use you to do what they did to me during my engagement that didn’t allow me to get married till today. You are the mother of the bride; you are supposed to be the one to keep quiet and not ruin your daughter’s wedding.”
The wife heard this and calmed down immediately.
A few minutes later, the tailor arrived, and the woman’s husband quickly went to change while the singers sang.
The engagement went on, and it was glorious.
The next morning, we were told the wedding had been postponed.
What happened?
After the engagement, the bride’s family was supposed to share the engagement items presented by the husband’s family.
The bride’s mother was the one solely responsible for the gift presented by the bride to the husband’s family, and she felt that since the family did not contribute to the items she bought, they shouldn’t share in the items brought by the groom.
It degenerated into an argument, and the husband’s family insisted they would not be a party to the event as long as the mother of the bride refused to apologise for calling them irresponsible.
The bride’s mother refused to apologise, and the groom’s family refused to attend the wedding or give their blessings.
The husband tried to placate them, but they refused to listen to him.
He told his wife that the wedding cannot proceed without their blessing.
The mother of the bride had always been financially responsible for the family.
She felt that, as a couple, with support from the church and her family, they should be able to do the wedding, but the man insisted it must be cancelled until the family rift heals.
The wedding was postponed, and months later, the groom got married to another person.
This event happened in FESTAC, November 2010.
DEMANDING SEX
I can never imagine my sons demanding sex or begging for sex with their wives.
It is a strange concept to me.
Both men and women are sexual beings and desire to have sexual intercourse naturally.
Why should one gender be begging the other for it or demanding it, or even paying for it?
No please
it is not the right order of things.
Women say this to men who try to remind them of all the things that they did for them in order to ensure their loyalty.
To the man, it is a big deal, but to her, they are things that another guy she loves can easily buy for her, too.
The problem here is a problem of love.
,
If a woman does not love you but is in need and you as a man is meeting that need, you will think meeting the need is enough to keep her loyal, but she has a need for love which you are not meeting and can never meet.
You are meeting the material needs, but that is no substitute for love.
Love is the ultimate longing of the heart, and it can only be fulfilled by loving someone who truly loves you back in the right manner.
So the lady then finds love and decides to walk away from you, and you decide to remind her that you were good to her. She replies, “What did you do that another cannot do?” or “Did I ask you to do whatever you did for me?”
This is why it is better to find true love than buy affection.
BUYING AFFECTION
What is the big deal about what you did for me?”
Women say this to men who try to remind them of all the things that they did for them in order to ensure their loyalty.
To the man, it is a big deal, but to her, they are things that another guy she loves can easily buy for her, too.
The problem here is a problem of love.
,
If a woman does not love you but is in need and you, as a man is meeting that need, you will think meeting the need is enough to keep her loyal, but she has a need for love which you are not meeting and can never meet.
You are meeting the material needs, but that is no substitute for love.
Love is the ultimate longing of the heart, and it can only be fulfilled by loving someone who truly loves you back in the right manner.
So the lady then finds love and decides to walk away from you, and you decide to remind her that you were good to her. She replies, “What did you do that another cannot do?” or “Did I ask you to do whatever you did for me?”
This is why it is better to find true love than buy affection.
-GSW-