GSW: It is a must. Not optional. A must. What did I call it? You can honour your father in prison or in death or even when they are boiling him on the fire. You can cry for him and feel for him but you must honour him. My grandparents had a bad marriage.

My grandpa will confide in his children. My grandma will confide in her children. Children ended up taking sides. Some with grandma because she was rich and strong even though abusive. The way choleric are admired from afar but never loved. The others with grandpa because he was loving, soft
and caring.

The way a melancholic/phlegmatic is admired but not really respected like one respects a boss. The children’s marriages were a mess. All the children had marital crisis. Those of them who are not dead yet have serious marital issues they are wearing make up for at the moment. And the root of the matter was that they put their mouth in the matter. They uncovered skirts that they should not. The same issue then snowballed to us. My grandpa began to confide in me and so did my grandma even as a grandchild. I had no business in the matter o. They were not supposed to drag grandchildren into it but they did. We chose
sides again, the grandchildren. As we got married I saw the same pattern.

I asked the Lord. He told me and showed me where the problem came from. Children sitting in judgement of their parents. It changes their perspective of life and people. When they get married they have a mindset that is already coloured and tainted. They attract the wrong kind of people based on the things they have heard and seen. I learnt. I changed my attitude to my parents after that. I had chosen my mother’s side and always had strong negative feelings towards my dad. I changed it. I changed it drastically. My siblings started thinking I was a traitor for abandoning the position we all took in ignorance. I didn’t care. It is one thing not to know the right thing. He who knows good and does not do it to him it is sin. I know the right thing. I must do it. I am happy I did. When my father passed, he died with joy and I was proud. No ill feeling. No negative mindset. No finally he is gone. Honour is a must. Whatever happened between parents is their business. Honour is my duty and it is a must. Chikena.