GSW:
The Holy Spirit can indeed be grieved—but that grief is usually directed at the individual, not the entire body. So, while He may be grieved with Sister A, He could still be pleased with Sister B, depending on each person’s level of yieldedness to Him.

When the Holy Spirit has instructed us to handle a matter—or to leave it alone—and we choose to do things our own way instead, we can sense sorrow or heaviness in our spirit. That sadness often reflects the fact that we’ve chosen our will over His.

Sometimes, the Holy Spirit points something out to us—something we personally can’t change or control—and we begin to weep or feel deep sorrow. Why? Because we perceive just how deeply He has been grieved.

What I appreciate is that we’re being honest about all this.

It’s important to note that in the early Church, it wasn’t common practice to receive spouses through divine leading as we often describe today. They already had marriage customs in place, rooted in their Jewish culture. Love wasn’t seen as a feeling—it was a command. You were expected to love whoever you were paired with.

Marriages were arranged in those days. Mary and Joseph didn’t fall in love—they were paired from childhood.

Today, we’ve chosen to reject arranged pairings and instead seek out “love” ourselves. Now, it’s God who we expect to do the matchmaking by His Spirit. And even then, those marriages still face serious challenges.

Let’s be real—God does everything perfectly, but we are the ones who must Dokimazo (test and approve His will, as Romans 12:2 puts it). That’s our part.

Contribution:
I believe, sir, that everyone in a marriage has the responsibility to work with the Holy Spirit to make it thrive. But many of us let our emotions take over—and when that happens, we stop listening to Him.