I have a position and would like to seek other’s perspective on it as I don’t agree with the “universal position” on it. Communication: I completely disagree with the notion and perception that Women are better communicators and Men are poor communicators. The idea that a particular gender is poor/better at something is absurd to me because billions of people cannot just be “poor” at an essential element of life. The first question would be “better/poor in comparison to whom?” Why is one gender the basis or reference point. Is it by the volume of words used or the ability to read emotional cues? Why should female communication be the reference point especially when more words and gestures are required? The second question is why then do men understand men perfectly if we are poor in communication? Why is it that we don’t miscommunicate at workplace, only in relationships and other informal setting requiring male/female interactions. The last question would be at what point does this inadequacy set in? Is it at puberty or from birth? This question is important because men were raised by both men and women so why was this not trained into boys from toddlers. If it is more of nature than nurture, why then should it be seen as a male problem? Do we see the same trend in our ministry/work/families? i.e. Men not communicating clearly.

    gswmi.com > FAQs > Partners' Communication > I have a position and would like to seek other’s perspective on it as I don’t agree with the “universal position” on it. Communication: I completely disagree with the notion and perception that Women are better communicators and Men are poor communicators. The idea that a particular gender is poor/better at something is absurd to me because billions of people cannot just be “poor” at an essential element of life. The first question would be “better/poor in comparison to whom?” Why is one gender the basis or reference point. Is it by the volume of words used or the ability to read emotional cues? Why should female communication be the reference point especially when more words and gestures are required? The second question is why then do men understand men perfectly if we are poor in communication? Why is it that we don’t miscommunicate at workplace, only in relationships and other informal setting requiring male/female interactions. The last question would be at what point does this inadequacy set in? Is it at puberty or from birth? This question is important because men were raised by both men and women so why was this not trained into boys from toddlers. If it is more of nature than nurture, why then should it be seen as a male problem? Do we see the same trend in our ministry/work/families? i.e. Men not communicating clearly.

I have a position and would like to seek other’s perspective on it as I don’t agree with the “universal position” on it. Communication: I completely disagree with the notion and perception that Women are better communicators and Men are poor communicators. The idea that a particular gender is poor/better at something is absurd to me because billions of people cannot just be “poor” at an essential element of life. The first question would be “better/poor in comparison to whom?” Why is one gender the basis or reference point. Is it by the volume of words used or the ability to read emotional cues? Why should female communication be the reference point especially when more words and gestures are required? The second question is why then do men understand men perfectly if we are poor in communication? Why is it that we don’t miscommunicate at workplace, only in relationships and other informal setting requiring male/female interactions. The last question would be at what point does this inadequacy set in? Is it at puberty or from birth? This question is important because men were raised by both men and women so why was this not trained into boys from toddlers. If it is more of nature than nurture, why then should it be seen as a male problem? Do we see the same trend in our ministry/work/families? i.e. Men not communicating clearly.

May 12, 2025 by Gbenga Samuel Wemimo
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I have a position and would like to seek other’s perspective on it as I don’t agree with the “universal position” on it. Communication: I completely disagree with the notion and perception that Women are better communicators and Men are poor communicators. The idea that a particular gender is poor/better at something is absurd to me because billions of people cannot just be “poor” at an essential element of life. The first question would be “better/poor in comparison to whom?” Why is one gender the basis or reference point. Is it by the volume of words used or the ability to read emotional cues? Why should female communication be the reference point especially when more words and gestures are required? The second question is why then do men understand men perfectly if we are poor in communication? Why is it that we don’t miscommunicate at workplace, only in relationships and other informal setting requiring male/female interactions. The last question would be at what point does this inadequacy set in? Is it at puberty or from birth? This question is important because men were raised by both men and women so why was this not trained into boys from toddlers. If it is more of nature than nurture, why then should it be seen as a male problem? Do we see the same trend in our ministry/work/families? i.e. Men not communicating clearly.

GSW: Let me say first that the Logic of this discussion and the emotion of this discussion are two separate things. The first we can all write about. The second however is the the universal reality and we can’t write it out. Ladies express themselves verbally without regards to how sensible what they are saying is or how silly it is. They will talk. Guys usually don’t want to sound silly, so they won’t even bother to talk even if they know the answer. If a couple breaks up or have marital challenges, almost all the time, the lady is the one talking about it to others. You sometimes have to drag the husbands or the guys before they open up. It is the same all over the world. I have cases now in which I have heard from the wife but the wife told
me the husband is unwilling to talk to anybody yet.

A couple gets married. Next Sunday they come for thanksgiving. Pastor says share your testimony. Who will grab the mic please? Couple has a baby. On naming ceremony day, pastor said couple should share their testimony, who will grab the mic please? Couple did house warming, Pastor says come and share testimony. Who will grab the mic please?
I was in church as a teen when my mum testified that my Daddy has been made a Vice Principal. My Daddy does not attend the church o and my mummy did not know what his classroom looked like. It is not about counting words and scientific logical paralysis. Men keep quiet for their wives, it is a recipe for peace at home. If you see a house where both of them are talking at the same time, arguments and fights will be plenty. A man can just say “Okay” and the matter is sorted. The woman will explain the O and the K and the A and the Y.

It is not having more words. In communication we say where two words will do, don’t use three. Wives expect their husbands to listen and then to get to the point when they reply. They however will explain what happened in an arguments from when they were single. How they made a vow to be celibate. How they didn’t defile themselves till they got married. Who their husband’s mother is and how she ruined the children. How they married him for love and how he is now jobless and what the devil has turned him to. When a lady comes for counselling, she can talk for one hour not minding that the person she is talking to may be tired or that there are others on the queue. The men will talk for five minutes. It got to
a point, I began to do counselling on my feet so that I won’t encourage time wasting. They didn’t come to hear what I have to say by the spirit. They came to make me hear what they have to say and yet the first is where the solution lies.

Academically speaking, both sexes are good communicators. In life, men leave the talk to the ladies and this is a global reality. As a teenager, you attract more babes when you dress well and look composed than when you are a chatter box. Girls don’t really like guys who talk too much. They will say he is not a man. He is childish.

My grandparents were the same. Grandma will talk. Grandpa will say Okay. Discussion closes. And they will be in the room for two hours, talking. One side does most of the talk. The other just agrees. However, if you see my grandpa disagree automatically there will be an argument because it means what my grandpa said is what will be done and my grandma will want to be heard before the gavel will fall hence the argument. I think this

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