GSW: No please. It was not a curse. God did not curse Adam or the woman. He cursed only the land. It was a reorientation of priorities. So that there will be order. Women who get tired of their husbands do so because their husbands got tired of them first or their husbands are dead weights who lived off them like parasites. Women are designed to thrive under the leadership of their husbands. A woman who is leading the husband will therefore get tired of him. A woman feeding the husband will get tired of him. A woman whose husband is Nabal will get tired of being married to a fool.

Nobody gets tired of a useful tool. If a woman is tired, her husband is obviously of no use to her anymore. So being tired for the sake of just being tired is a lie. The Yorubas have a saying “Let the woman pee while walking, let the man pee while walking. Let us see who will be drenched at the end of the peeing contest” When a man says he is tired of a marriage, he can still stay in it and be responsible and bear the marriage up with his full chest. When a woman says she is tired of a marriage. She can stay in it if there are children in it. If there are no children in it, she lets go of her part of the marriage. The man sees this, maybe waits for a while and then seeks solace elsewhere.

The thing is, the woman that claimed she is tired of a man will see another woman take the man up and treat him like a gem. This happens for many women too. It is what it is. Sometimes the woman will have
nowhere to go and still stay under the roof of the man. The man will still accommodate and be responsible for her even though they are no longer vitally married. Men do that.

A woman will throw the man out, once he has outlived his usefulness because she can’t feed him or be responsible for him. If she is the one with the financial power in the marriage.

I am handling a case now. Man is 73. Wife had given him quit notice to move out November 7. She is 43. Wife says he is no longer useful to her. Man says he made her what she is today and now in his old age she is throwing him on the street. Man said she was a fresh graduate when they met. He was a widow. He invested in her, trained her, gave her all the connection to become something in life. She works with the government and she got an official house. He sold his house and moved in with her five years ago. Now she is telling him to move. Baba says where was he to start from. I told him to move to Airbnb. She has already informed the police and filed for divorce. She is the one who got allocated the house. It is in her name.

They are not poor. If it was a man that got tired of her, he won’t treat her that way. He might start cheating or not sleep at home anymore. So he would treat her better than this. She got tired of him and this is how women who are tired behave. They kick you out. Unless it is your house. Then they move out! Baba has not slept in days. He came to see me and he said he has read all the psalms so that God can change her mind. He is acting poor in this case. Not poor in the sense of lacking money but poor in the sense of conceding power to the wife and begging her. He should have moved out. He has the money to do so or travelled abroad. He has a son in London. Just for a while. Not be this vulnerable that
the wife reduced him to tears and self pity. They have not had sex in six years. Not
because the man cannot do o but because she refused to do so. Baba should have seen the handwriting on the wall. So baba is no longer useful, Period!

Now if this administration appoints Baba as a minister today. The wife will rush back. She will do everything to regain his love. She will suddenly want to be first lady. The same man she has told to go to hell will now be treated like a gem not because of money but for status. He would have brought something exciting to the table. This is why I said it applies only to poor men. Stella Obasanjo was gone when her husband was imprisoned. When he was getting into office in 1999, she fought to get into the stadium.