GSW: Depends on the woman. Some women or wives do not seem to understand that their strength is not for public display. It is subtle and under the sheet or behind closed doors. They want to form Ninja with their husband in public. So he then puts them in their place. It bruises the ego and some don’t learn on time. But public demand of respect from a husband is not the husband’s fault. The wife should not have to make him ask or fight for it. When you guys now get inside the house, friends are gone and you guys are doing chummy chummy lovey dovey, you tell him to do anything, he will be doing it. Touch here. He will. Sit there, he will. It is your space now. But in that public place, your job is to make him look good. Present him as a man who has his home in order. Some years ago, three years ago, we had the Supernatural Convention at Surulere.

I told my ex-wife about it. She said she has another Christian meeting she wanted to attend that day. I said Okay. It was on October 1, and we had a public Holiday. Service started, things were buzzing as they should. An usher came to announce to me that my ex-wife and children were around. I announced to the whole church, everybody stood up to welcome her. She refused to enter the auditorium. We all waited and waited. Eventually she walked in, looking sad and unhappy. People were greeting her, she refused to
acknowledge the greeting. They made T-shirts for her, she refused to collect the T-shirts. She came up, I tried my best to make up the gap, and then she left. It was not the first time though. Throughout the marriage, whenever she wanted to show her displeasure about anything, either imagined or real, she will do it in public. She will come to church on the day you are preaching, sit in front and begin to weep. She
does this so that someone will walk up to her and ask her what was wrong.. Then she will drag you and use you to mop the floor usually over non-issues.

My younger brother was opening a restaurant. We all went there and we had a great party. She arrived. The MC announced that she had arrived. She refused to acknowledge the MC or the people she met there. In both cases, she should have just stayed away but she will never miss an opportunity to give me the finger in public I told the mother what has been going on one day. The mother called and asked her
what the issue was. She said when I met him, he was a guy I could never respect. I could value him for what he does or his intelligence but he was not the kind of guy I could respect. Now he has become a big deal and it is suddenly a crime not to respect him. That people call him GSW does not mean I see him as GSW. To me he is Sammy, that guy that used to carry beans to go an grind for me when we first got married. I cannot respect him and if he wants this marriage to last, he would stop being GSW and return
to Sammy. That Sammie is the one I can cope with. Not this one that is a nobody and people are treating like a big deal. I can never respect you, do you hear me, I can never respect any man. Respect is not meant only for Royal stock though. A woman who desires to be married must know this as well as I know my name, respect your man. Don’t pretend to respect him. Respect him. Don’t marry a man you cannot respect.