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But please… what is with this whole respect business? Life is simple, we love, appreciate, and have regard for each other. We don’t need all the peacock show-off. I am jus thinking loud, I know this matter of respect is as old as..
GSW: That question was what Vashti was asking while they were throwing her load out of the palace.
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Yes, that is what I’m saying…. why does it have to be tested just to be put on display?
GSW: A wise wife will not allow it to be tested. Once a wise husband realizes he is struggling to be respected in his own marriage, the marriage is over.
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I understand all of this… what I don’t get is why some men (not kings) feel the need to make a point of displaying the fact that their wives obey/respect them? Okay, let me ask this… would you have your wife do something just because you want to display/prove this point to your friends? We’re all different, and I appreciate that.
GSW: That was not the context though. We must imagine things in their natural courses. Not like a stage play. Husband and wife wakes up daily, husband makes breakfast while
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Ahhhhh… so are you saying that in real live, men don’t like displaying the fact; the respect their wives have for them.
GSW: Depends on the woman. Some women or wives do not seem to understand that their strength is not for public display. It is subtle and under the sheet or
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I’m not talking of respect now. You know the way it’s normal team work to get the home going… it can’t be seen in some quarters.
GSW: Now this might need a bit of subtle adjustment from the man. Not forced.
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My friend’s marriage in the UK scattered cos she asked the husband, a Prince from Edo, to take dustbin out in the presence of his Nigerian visiting mother. The guy had already spoken to her about this before the mother came. Let him act like a prince in his mother’s presence, when she leaves, they can go back to status quo. This girl foolishly started querying his actions. We warned her but her feminist ideas won’t let her listen. The guy was summoned to Oba’s Palace in Benin and mandated to marry an Edo wife. My friend is still frustrated till today asking everyone what she did wrong. She was foolish. This is a life experience I witnessed. In her quiet time, I can bet she wishes so, but outside, she is championing young girls leaving their marriages for issues they can sort out…. a very sad feminist as at the last time I encountered her.
GSW: They all end up here. Wearing bad character like a medal and going about writing stuff on social media. Becoming a life coach helping ladies in bad marriages to
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Reminds me of my aunty and her husband. He loves cooking and would send us (his wife and her cousins) all to watch movies while he cooks, he won’t even allow us to participate in anyway. He would finish and tell us to go serve ourselves. One day he was in the kitchen as usual while we lounged in the living room waiting for Oga (the boss) to finish cooking for us to eat, and his mother came in without unexpectedly. She put her hands on her head and began crying. Moreso, all of us were not related to him and they are not the same tribe. Mama said they have turned her son to houseboy. It wasn’t funny at all.
GSW: She should have run into the kitchen immediately and chased him out. As soon as she saw that his mother had arrived. You run into the kitchen and lock
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Which is why we shouldn’t tie respecting a husband because he is the provider. Because what if he isn’t providing. Respect the husband because it is the rule of the game.
GSW: It should not be respect based on performance. It should be a natural respect