Most valuable lessons in life are learned through experience. No matter how many times we hear, read, or see something…our human nature compels us to experience it for ourselves before we can be totally sure.

This is especially true in our relationships. Much of which are a trial and error process until we find the person that we want to fully commit ourselves to.

While we all have unique and specific experiences, though, there are some consistencies and patterns that seem to remain universally true.

The lessons below are a combination of personal experience, watching decades of success in my own family’s relationships, and lessons that I’ve learned from 15+ years of coaching private clients

And I can tell you this: Most people wish they learned these things a lot sooner than they did.

We don’t have “Love 101” in school, and many people are guided by others in life who (through no fault of their own) aren’t properly equipped to prepare others for the truths and trials of life and love. So, we perpetuate cycles of heartache, frustration, and pain.

If we did have Love 101, here are some points I think would be valuable in the curriculum.

1: You need to get yourself in order first.

2: You can have two good people who aren’t good for each other.

3: You can leave if you want to.

4: The timing of sex doesn’t matter.

5: Peace is just as important as passion.

6: Love is NOT all you need.

7: Choose your partner for YOU, not anyone else.