It is us making the choice—all of us! Just take that and let it sink in.

Contribution:
I’ve often wondered why the Bible doesn’t emphasize marrying who we love, but instead focuses on loving who we marry. Many cultures, like the Indian culture, encourage arranged marriages—often set up by parents. Interestingly, statistics show that such marriages tend to have lower divorce rates than those in Western cultures, where love is the usual basis for marriage.

GSW:
I’ve noticed something within PSSBC that has bothered me for a while, but I chose to remain silent because I believe things will balance out eventually.

Here’s what I mean:
A guy hears from God and approaches a lady. She’s initially open to it. But then she goes and speaks to a group of other ladies—a sort of informal council—and in the end, she is either convinced to accept or reject the guy. This happens subtly, but I hear about it and I think to myself… Hmm…

By what criteria are we judging these decisions?
Material achievements? Set standards? Financial capacity?
Or are we judging by the Spirit?

If I am truly convinced that God told me something, I would never subject that conviction to anyone else’s opinion. The reason we seek validation from others—especially those we consider spiritually sound—is often because we are not certain ourselves.

I’ve never been like that. If I were, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
I move by the voice of God, the conviction in my heart, and I run with whatever He gives me. No human opinion matters. Once someone’s opinion becomes more important than God’s voice, it is no longer God’s Word you’re following.

Being double-minded is not a spiritual strength. It causes us to discard God’s will and replace it with our own logic and senses.

Imagine being so afraid of making a mistake that you end up doing nothing with the reality God has designed for you. Really, think about it!

When I was in 300-level at university, I saw my children in a vision—I was teaching them and leading them somewhere. I knew those children would come to pass. But I didn’t receive a name or identity for a wife. I didn’t see her. But I knew those children were coming, no matter who I married—even if she didn’t have a womb!

It was that vision that made me want to marry a certain SS lady, but she was too afraid to commit at the time. That’s how I walk with God: by what He says.

I don’t try to embellish or interpret His words to fit my expectations.
He is God, and I’m always the one learning from Him.
I was willing to marry anyone from anywhere without hesitation—and yes, I did. That’s my extreme, and it will always be my extreme.

I set aside my fears, pain, and opinions to fulfill God’s will.
I count my feelings as dung. I’ve proven this again and again.

Here’s the truth:
We don’t matter in the grand scheme if all we do is chase our own desires.
God doesn’t need your will or preference to accomplish His plan—He needs your obedience. Even if it comes with pain, stress, and tears—like Jesus experienced—His will must be done.

Most of us love ourselves too much, and that’s why God’s Word no longer carries weight.
How can God show you a vision so clearly, and yet you delay acting on it because it doesn’t align with your own criteria?

The vision is clear.
You are the runner who’s complaining the shoes are too tight.
Another runner is ready to step in and run that race. God won’t tolerate our hesitation and disobedience forever.

Remember Mary? She was a betrothed virgin, suddenly pregnant, and could have been stoned to death. But she didn’t complain. She stood before Joseph and told him the truth. Think about the shame, the whispers, the judgment from society—none of it moved her.

Do you know what the angel said through Elizabeth?
“Now shall the whole world call you blessed.”
She carried shame in the present but received a promise of honor in the future. She bore the shame, and she brought forth the Savior. Hallelujah!

Many of us, even with tongues and spiritual gifts, don’t have Mary’s boldness.
We are too carnal in our thinking.
Self is king. It’s a pity.

You hear things like:

• “I can’t.”
• “Don’t stress me.”
• “Is it by force to get married?”

And these come from spirit-filled believers whom God has shown their children as a gift!
Chai! Stop it!

We are not here for ourselves.
We are here to do one thing—fulfill the will of God.
That’s all.