GSW: I am not defending it. Drop your emotion and outrage. It will only lead you to making a mistake. You must judge issues with calmness. As a daughter, you do what is right by both your parents and the girl. You don’t carry a gun and kill your father. It will ruin your own children. You must think of the consequences of your action.

When you tell your children the story of how you kill your father, they will kill you too back one day whether you deserve it or not. Stories have a way of changing in meaning and importance over time. Learn this. You killed your father. Nobody bothers to talk about the reason anymore. They just label you “Father’s killer” It taints your family and children forever. So discard the outrage and emotion. Judge the issue calmly. The man did great evil.

I agree. The daughter however cannot be his judge. None of the children can be his judge. It has to be outsiders. They made the family pay 2.3Million Naira before they released the man on bail. He will still be responsible for other things including moving from where they are living. His children are already ashamed of him. A family meeting is coming up next weekend.